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Sex Appeal and Physical Fitness

2006-12-06T22:50:00.000+08:00

Because we LOVE to eat and won’t diet we spend at least an hour and a half walking every day. Nearly two miles of it is a steep grade. The locals call it heart attack hill. As former runners with arthritic joints, we view the challenge as a way to get a runner’s high without additional joint damage.

But the other big payoff is we look decades younger than we really are. Our bodies don’t have layers of flabby, unattractive fat deposits. A bikini is still possible for me and I don’t have to wear “Mom jeans”. Additionally, my legs with their long, smooth muscles are sexy enough to turn heads everywhere we go. Even our abdominal muscles are tighter.

Walking for exercise has a number of benefits.

1. It helps regulate weight without unpleasant dieting.

2. Walking is good exercise regardless of age.

3. Walking can improve heart health and diabetes. If you did ever have a heart attack, you are much more likely to survive.

4. Endorphins cause the runner high and help alleviate depression. It’s also a great time to step away from problems, think more clearly and come up with solutions.

5. Walking is a pleasant way to spend time with your lover and your dog.

6. Losing weight and gaining a leaner, more muscular body can make a big difference in how attractive any body looks.

7. A stronger, healthier body will insure you feel like getting naked and making love.

Your walking goal should be about 4 miles a day (it doesn’t have to be all at once), but even a much shorter distance will make you look and feel better. An additional step for sex appeal and body strengthening and shaping is weight training. Lifting weights and weight training will help keep your body strong and attractive into old age. It also raises your metabolism so you loose weight while eating the same amount of food.

Such a big part of physical attraction is essential strength. At least some people who become sexually dysfunctional and/or in need of nursing care at a young age are literally too weak to care for themselves. Like my grandpa used to say, “If you sit down, you’ll freeze up.”

Don’t freeze up. Get moving and find your sex appeal.

About The Author

Georgette Pauls knows what it takes to have a successful relationship. Unlike many “gurus” with multiple failed relationships, Georgette has had a happy romantic relationship for over 25 years. You can find more of her insights into sex appeal at http://www.the-relationship-site.com/.

Hair Removal: Hair Removal for Men

2006-11-28T19:57:00.000+08:00

The New Man and His Unwanted Hair

Believe it or not, you could soon be trotting along for a bikini wax with your girlfriend. Well, maybe not the full Brazilian. But if the word in the tanning salon is to be believed, hair removal for men is well and truly on the rise.

It’s not just swimmers, bodybuilders and male strippers in those gross animal print thongs who are saying goodbye to their unwanted hair – men of all ages and backgrounds are doing away with their fuzz. And why not? It’s more hygienic, it leaves your skin silky smooth, and with so many procedures and professionals waiting to oblige, it seems unfair to let the girls keep all these hair removal secrets to themselves.

Some clinics say that at least 50% of their laser hair removal clients are men. Most want the hair gone from their chests, backs and legs. Some want the necessity of shaving their faces in the morning (and sometimes the afternoon as well) to be a thing of the past. With increasing pressures on time, many new products are marketed to exactly that.

The nose, ears and between the eyebrows can also be problem spots for guys. While the perfect arch may not be on top of many men’s to-do list, stars like David Beckham and Johnny Depp, with their suspiciously slaved-over looking brows (not a mono- or uni-brow in sight) certainly add to the pressure men already feel to look the part.

Men are also targeting the back of the neck, their pubic area, toes and knuckles. They’re not necessarily going for full-on treatments like laser, electrolysis or even waxing (men’s pain thresholds aren’t what they’re cracked up to be!) but they are looking into alternatives to shaving. Shaving can cause razor burn which is very irritating, and it’s hardly a long-term solution anyway. Plus, there are some areas which simply need closer attention. While men are finding their feminine sides, and still on the look out for practicality and cost-effectiveness, it’s no wonder the tides are turning.

For some men though, evolution will always win out. Why bother to wax your legs or your eyebrows, when your kids and grandkids will probably look back and wonder what the hell you were doing. Well, don’t speak to fast. Repeated waxing or laser treatment can weaken a follicle so much that it grows back very finely, if at all. Give this kind of treatment a few years, and the next generation may not have the problem to begin with. So think of your poor unborn son and his dad’s uni-brow while you consider whether or not to start waxing. You’re riding an evolutionary wave as we speak!

If you’re a guy and it’s all sounding a bit too girly for your taste, fair enough. You’re entitled to your hair (and you’re lack of sexy smoothness!). But if hair removal could be the new you, get yourself on Ebay and start tracking down some decent tweezers, check out your local electrologist and raid your girlfriends waxing supplies (she’ll thank you in the end, I promise).

- About The Author

Tamra Cantar is a freelance writer on topics of interest and has a website dedicated to providing the visitor with useful information and resources for hair removal. Visit http://www.gohairremoval.com for more information on this topic and other hair removal techniques.

Men's Tie Accessories & What They Do

2006-11-28T19:54:00.000+08:00

Today’s tie is a descendent of the European cravat which was a long strip of cloth worn about the neck. A starched, white ruff was then attached to keep the jacket or doublet from becoming marred or stained as well as functioning as a napkin or bib as the need arose. Ties are used now as a fashion statement or as part of a uniform.

We’ve all seen comical situations occur with men and their ties. For instance, when the news camera catches a man walking across the street during a storm and his tie is blowing frantically around his head. Without a doubt, there are also dangers lurking with tie-wearers which need to be taken into consideration, such as when the tie gets caught in machinery. To avoid such circumstances, several smart devices have been invented that enables the tie to be attached to the dress shirt underneath, thereby holding it in place.

The following list gives the names and descriptions of each of these devices:

TIE BAR: Much like the shape and function of a paperclip, this is an elongated strip of metal used to slide across the tie, attaching it to the shirt. Tie bars, also known as tie slides can be found in plain or decorative patterns.

TIE CHAIN: Usually made from gold or silver, and resembling a hanger with a loop to attach to a button with a chain hanging down from either end. The tie is slipped through the loop, hiding the bar and revealing the chain in front.

TIE CLIP: Two or three strips of material joined together by a spring-loaded mechanism which is clipped across the tie and shirt, holding them together. Also known as a tie clasp, they come in a variety of materials, lengths and shapes. Many have decorative engravings, logos or gemstones attached.

TIE STRAP: A relatively new accessory which is slipped through the back of the tie through the label loop then buttoning it above and below. They are usually made of cloth or plastic.

TIE TACK: Also known as a tie pin, this utensil resembles a studded earring with a chain attached to a long, cylindrical piece of metal or weight. The pin is detached from its base and placed through the material of the tie and then reattached to the base. The weight is then slid through a buttonhole, which keeps the tie in place.

It’s a matter of preference which instrument each person uses but one thing to remember with tie pins is that they tend to damage the silk tie cloth when piercing them. When shopping for tie clips, be sure to choose the correct widths and materials to complement your tie collection.

- About The Author

Samantha Lyndon

Looking for an assortment of men's tie clips and accessories? Visit http://www.tie-directory.com Tie-Directory.com

Men Should Take Care Of Their Skin

2006-11-28T19:52:00.000+08:00

During the recent past I have experienced numerous instances when a make friend of mine entered my bathroom to come out holding a cream I had left on the sink and asking me why do I use it, how do I apply it and what it supposedly does to my skin. The first time this happened, I began laughing and thinking that my male friend had some feminine characteristics he wished to show me by asking me all these questions. When the exact same incident was repeated by others, I realized that men are curious of how the women's cosmetic industry has evolved to a multi-billion dollar one and how exactly all these cosmetics assist women's skin stay young and fresh looking.

Over the last few years, men's magazines have slowly introduced pages that in women's magazines have existed for decades, presenting skin cosmetics and offering advice to men and how to take care of their skin. Beauty editors unveil simple approaches to male grooming and men have come to understand the importance of taking care not only of their wardrobe, but also of their skin. "Dress for success" is not anymore just a term that corresponds to the outfit a man will select to feel comfortable in and win his case, but it has evolved to a generic term that describes the state of the contemporary male mind and beauty tactics used to look sharp and handsome.

In order to maintain their edge, guys of all ages are interested in taking care of themselves and indulging in image enhancing products, gadgets and treatments. But since they are still men, they are impatient and less likely to grasp the concept of maintenance procedures. In fact they prefer to get it over with in one shot.

Beauty salons and massage clinics have reintroduced skin treatment techniques, especially designed to cover the male needs and men are not anymore bothered with the too many skin care products a woman usually carries in a trip. They have themselves started by doing the basics, cleansing, protection, moisturizing, post shaving and a weekly anti-clog treatment, while TV series and advertisements have discovered a virgin target audience that wishes to be fed with information and learn from the previously annoying women experts.

Although men's skin is thicker, specifically approximately 0.5mm thicker than women's, it is also oilier, with larger exposed pores, and more of a tendency to break out in a sweat. Thus, using deodorant soaps directly on the face is a practice men should avoid, as they might irritate their skin and leave a sticky residue. Men should try something tangy that will leave their skin feeling fresh and clean. Moreover, for those men that are super lazy, multi-tasking products for face, hair and body will save them precious steps.

In general, if you are a man you should remember that the areas prone to dryness need hydration, but it is better if you select a lighter gel-lotion formula that will be oil-free and will not add shine. In addition, eye gels work nicely for men, but rich eye creams that lock in moisture can make eyes look puffy. Finally, skin that gets shaved on a regular basis has a host of other problems, like red bumps, ingrown hairs and leathery patches. For those instances, you should remember that razor burns or skin cuts can be reduced by using a good cleanser in the shower, a scrub every couple of days and a softening shave cream with a sharp razor. Of course, changing the blades at least once a week is vital. The problem of shine can be addressed by using a scrub to get rid off dead cells and for blemishes and the advice of beauty editors is for men to use a weekly treatment product containing salicylic acid. Keep in mind that adding a toner can reduce pore size, control oil slicks, and help avoid nasty ingrown hairs, but anything too harsh will strip away essential oils when the skin is most vulnerable. Concluding, wearing a high SPF cream to protect it from the sun marks and the possible wrinkles, especially on the face, nose, ears and scalp is considered necessary during the sunnier months of the year. My impression after all these is that guys are definitely taking more notice of what they see in the mirror, while saving their skin from possible damage has become a priority.

- About The Author

Kadence Buchanan writes articles for http://forahealthyman.com/ - In addition, Kadence also writes articles for http://foodandourlives.com/ and http://4alternativehealth.com/.

Seven Things That Women Want From Men

2006-11-28T19:50:00.000+08:00

It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

The answer isn’t easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It’s enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).

So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?

That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time.

It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!

So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.

1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value. I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.

There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?

2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.

3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she’s being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.

One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…

4. A guy who’s in shape. Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there.

So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass? You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!

5. Someone who’s not boring. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who’s quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around.

6. Someone who’s good with her friends. You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.

Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!

I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."

Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.

This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.

Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don’t expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren’t bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.

I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time. As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That’s what we men should really want!

I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you.

Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!

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James Brito regularly explores topics of attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:

http://www.000relationships.com/towomen/

- About The Author

James Brito is the author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women." His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing women the world over. His immersion in international dating circles brings forth a gritty, no-nonsense approach to dating and developing relationships necessary for the modern single man. Learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at: http://www.000relationships.com

Getting Healthy And Glowing Skin For Men

2006-11-28T19:47:00.000+08:00

Everybody wants to have clear, healthy glowing skin.

It is quite common that women take care of their skin like cleansing, toning, moisturising etc. So there are several beauty products available in the markets which are exclusively for women, like fairness cream. Generally men have a tough skin. As the nature of their skin is quite differ from women, so naturally women's products will not make a very good effect on men. In collaboration with Activor Corp, USA, herbalists and dermatologists from India, Emami has created a unique fairness cream for men. Emami Fair and Handsome is not only helpful for making the skin fair, but it's also helpful for relieving stress and fatigue signs.

According to a survey a growing number of Indian Men using this cream. So it's the time for Men to get Fair and Handsome.

If you're very serious about your skin and wants to stay young for long time, then you must protect your skin from sun. Sunburn is one of the main reasons for premature aging. Generally men do not use sunscreen on a regular basis hence left their skin for high risk factors like sun's UV rays. The UV ray of sun is very dangerous for our skin. Along with cancer, cataracts may happen due to of it. Fair and Handsome has a revolutionary double power sunguard counter over exposer of male skin to sun and protect it from harmful UV rays.

And offcourse at the time of shaving. Shaving is the most typical start to a man's day. A soothing cream after shaving is very much necessary. This product of Emami has anti-bacterial agents which actively protect skin from pollution and dark shadows caused by daily shave.

- About The Author

Jacky Menon is contributing author for http://www.fairandhandsome.net/

Three Things Guys Love In ‘Super Cars’. Scientific Look On Men Psyche. by: Joe Guarrera

2006-11-26T13:58:00.000+08:00

What Is a stereotype of a real man? Tough, bad-ass, interested in cars and opposite sex, only thing he spends his free time on is ‘tuning’ his ride.

Is this truly how real man is meant to be? I don’t think so, it is just like with blondes, not every girl with yellow hair is so dumb that completing any everyday action is a tough one for her.

Anyway most of guys are interested in cars, it doesn’t mean that every man out there is a ‘petrol-head’. We just find ourselves attracted to mechanics and/or looks of some automobiles.

That is actually what makes us different from beautiful sex. We are taking everything logically and women are making their decision mostly based on emotions. It doesn’t mean that every man is completely washed off all emotions Robocop, we simply don’t allow them to take control over us in most situations.

We just know what attracts us and what don’t. Yeah, it is biggest difference between us and woman, if you don’t believe me just look at their shopping habits, most of the time in shop they spent trying-on things they are not going to buy later. Is it logical? No!

Ok. So we are attracted to cars but what cars we like the most? Answer is simple, ones that we cant own, the fastest, the most beautiful, the most luxurious, simply the best of all, cars that are being called ‘super cars’.

But what exactly we find so appealing in those completely impractical cars? I’ve decided to pick up the gauntlet and look at his problem from psychologists view[I am not one but who cares].

1. Looks.

I think that this is the most important factor of all. I based that assumption on fact that most man are visuals[they are more attracted to looks than other qualities]. If you think that you aren’t, just think about last time you have seen some gorgeous girl, have you felt that worm wave of energy going through your chest? Maybe you’ve found yourself imaging all the things that you could do with her? If yes you are a hypocrite. Why? Cause you are feeling attraction that is based only on how she looks.

That’s why most man think that some car is great only cause of its trendy eye-catching design.

2. Dreams.

This is another important factor in my opinion, dreams are deeply in our psyche. Everyone love to dream, Why? Cause in dreams we can be anyone, we can do anything and own anything, for example a super car. I am sure that you have dreamed at least once in your life how would it be if you would have a million bucks. Yeah, million is really a big amount of money, you for sure could find this dreams so real that you have even made some kind of commitment that you will have such house, wife and … car that you always wanted.

Dreams are extremely powerful, actually it is scientifically proven that our subconscious part of mind, responsible for things like breathing, processing of movements and other things we don’t have direct control of, doesn’t recognize the difference between reality and dreams. That’s why we can want something so badly, cause our subconscious after experiencing all the benefits of some situation[after dreaming] sends “info” to our conscious mind that we want it.

3. Social Status.

Another biggie when comes to people overall not only men. Social status is fundamental of human communication since beginning of our species. Social status is like rank of power, more power you have better you are ranked. Funny thing is that from some reason men tend to think that having something to show off like car, big mansion or private jet will skyrocket their ranking but it is of course wrong.

I think that it all comes from idea of picking girls on all those material stuff. The concept isn’t wrong itself cause you will for sure find some chicks attracted to money but such friendship regularly wont lead to long term relationship.

My advice for you is to go out there and search for stuff about social status cause it is really fascinating thing. Actually you can notice social status in behavior of almost all animals and by having this knowledge you can actually become a leader of the group and by that the coolest guy in your environment.

OK, lets try to sum up everything that I have written in here. First, guys are thinking logically and woman act emotionally and this is why we better like mechanics than them. There are 3 main causes that make men love ‘super cars’. First is look, as every guy likes to hang his eye on some curved body, of course car body you perverts! Second we want that cars cause we are big dreamers and like to spend most of time in our work thinking about how would it be if we would have something that we don’t have. Third we want to increase our Social status which is oldest law of nature and indicator of masculinity.

I hope that after reading this stuff you know why you are drooling on your keyboard seeing new shiny red Ferrari and you will be looking on all of this stuff from different angle. I tried to make this article look scientific but I don’t know if I have accomplished this task, so if you have any suggestions for my further writings email me.

- About The Author
Joe Guarrera, one of the most successful internet marketers and car fanatic, that has spent half of his life helping others to create incredibly profitable businesses is now giving his secrets for free. My Blog at: http://www.thecoolfastcars.blogspot.com. E-mail me at: joe.guarrera@gmail.com

Hair Loss In Men - The Contributing Factors by: Mike Jones

2006-11-26T13:51:00.000+08:00

With hair loss in men, hair at the temples recedes and the crown can also begin to thin.

Eventually a horse shoe pattern around the sides of the head appears. The main signs of hair loss in men:

1. Receding hairline

2. Moderate to extensive hair loss, particularly on the crown of the head.

About ninety-five percent of hair loss in men is attributable to Androgenic Alopecia also know as male pattern baldness.

Some believe this condition includes three factors:

1) age

2) heredity

3) the male hormone testosterone

As hair loss in men progresses, the hair becomes finer, does not grow so long and the bald spot at the crown widens.

Finally, the thinning crown and the receding points may meet forming a horseshoe pattern with hair around the sides of the head.

Hair loss in men can begin as early as 20 although for the majority of men, hair loss is more noticeable from the age of 35 to 40.

DHT (Dihydrotestosterone) is recognized as a main culprit. DHT is a combination of testosterone and androgen receptors mixed with sebum and dirt particles. Some hair follicles are particularly sensitive to DHT and tend to shrink when exposed to it. Finally the hair follicle may shut down altogether and the hair falls out.

Another condition is called Alopecia Areata, in which hair comes out by the roots in one or more spots. It is much less common than Androgenic Alopecia.

Other causes of hair loss in men can include scalp infections, nutritional deficiency, systemic illness, and severe stress.

- About The Author
Mike Jones is a writer and webmaster with over 10 years experience. His recommendation: The NewHair Biofactors system stops hair loss within 1 week guaranteed! This hair care range from Nisim International, leaders in hair science for over 20 years, also assists in the growth of new hair. Click here for full details: http://www.1bodycare.com/newhair.htm

Men’s Running Shoes by: Gavin Sanderson

2006-11-26T13:43:00.000+08:00

Men and women have many differences and shoes are just one of them. A woman’s shoe isn’t merely a smaller version of man’s shoe. The design is different to allow for differences in the shape of the foot and weight applied to the heel.

Men’s running shoes are generally stiffer than women’s shoes. This allows for more support and motion control whereas women’s shoes tend to be a little more flexible.

For a long time, running shoe manufacturers specialized mainly in the construction of men’s running shoes and basically build scaled down versions for women.

In recent years however, many manufacturers have taken to designing running shoes specifically for women which take into consideration the differences in the build of women’s feet.

Since men of the same height tend to weigh more than women, men’s running shoes are designed to be tougher and have more cushioning in the sole to absorb the pounding caused by the additional weight.

The heels are typically designed to absorb shock of greater intensity. These extra features tend to make the shoe stiffer which adds additional support for the male foot, but which can make it hard for a female to move and flex naturally while wearing.

In general, the male foot has a broader forefoot than a woman’s. The female foot tends toward being angular.

As an example, see the features of the following men’s running shoes:

The Nike Shox TL3

This shoe is constructed with triple layers and provides great fit and optimal comfort. These layers allow the foot to breathe and the midfoot is given extra support from the lacing design.

The Nike Shox has bisected heel columns to allow each heel a smooth landing. This shoe provides excellent cushioning as well as impact protection. The Nike Shox offers the latest in sports shoe technology as well as old fashioned comfort. This shoe costs around $150 per pair.

The Adidas Clima Cool Running Shoe

This is another high quality men’s running shoe. It is constructed of breathable materials which are fast drying. The material provides for maximum ventilation from both sides and it has an antimicrobial lining which limits the bacterial growth and cuts down on odors.

This running shoe has a shock absorbing midsole with inserts and plates which reduce impact and protect feet. The rubber outersole is made from high traction rubber. The Adidas men’s running shoe is less expensive than the Nike, it costs around $85 per pair.

- About The Author
Gavin Sanderson provides articles on http://www.tennis-central.com. You can find more of his work at the site http://www.running-shoe-zone.com.

Men Facial Care Tips by: Paolo Basauri

2006-11-26T13:40:00.000+08:00

Men usually don’t care about our skin. It’s a simple fact.

We tend to think we are made from an indestructible material, and that our skin is made of iron. And so, we go on in life, shaving everyday, standing in extreme weather on our vacations, and eating junk food. But hey, our skin is actually deteriorating each passing day, and it’s not a matter of attitude, “machismo”, or whatever you’d like to call it. It’s a matter of health. And in today’s world men facial care is even a matter of social life.

You may not know this, but we men, have very sensitive skin. I used to ignore this also, until I notice my skin was getting too dry, now I have to use baby’s soap because the doctor told me that my skin type is very sensitive. He went on saying that a large portion of men have this same type of skin, and it is due to bad eating habits, lack of exercise and basic men facial care treatment . But what is most disturbing is that most men also ignore this, or they do not take proper action.

So what is proper action?

There are certain habits to take in consideration when you start caring about your facial skin care. Here are some tips that will help you get started in men facial care:

* Drink water, a lot. Water is good for overall health; it is a common advice to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day.

* Buy vitamin supplements. To have a healthy skin you should include in your diet multi-vitamins. Particularly helpful to your skin is the Vitamin E.

* Exfoliate your face twice a week. Exfoliation helps removing the dead cells on your facial skin, the result will be a skin free of impurities.

* Protect yourself from the sun. Keep in mind doing it in a healthy way, for example if you’re staying too much time outdoors with a hot weather. Don’t use too much, because sun blockers contain chemicals. Nowadays even some moisturizers have sun protection.

Remember this is all men facial care basic stuff. People have different skin types that have their own issues. You should visit your doctor if you notice anything strange in your skin. However this tips will help you in having a healthier, better looking skin. Bottom line is, start taking care. The web has plenty of information regarding these issues and is a good place to start.

- About The Author
Paolo Basauri is an expert author. You can find more tips for men facial care at http://www.menskincaretips.com , your place on the web for men skin care. Find advice and articles to get a healthy skin.

Tips For Men Buying Jewelry For Women by: Maria L. Baez

2006-11-26T13:23:00.000+08:00

Jewelry as a gift has always been a traditional favorite for women. Women love to wear jewelry and the more they have the better.

When you are buying a gift of jewelry, it may help to take along an already-owned piece to compare length. If this is not possible then select a princess length necklace (17- 19 inches in length). This is an excellent choice if you are not certain which strand length is most appropriate.

Another thing to consider before buying jewelry is whether she prefers to wear silver or gold-toned pieces. Sterling silver jewelry is affordable and very versatile.

Find if she is allergic to metal. Jewelry allergy is a common complaint from many people. The main cause of these allergies is the nickel content present in jewelry. Pure gold and silver metal are too soft and have nickel added to make them hard. For gold, less the karat value more shall be the nickel content.

Avoid dyed gemstones; some of them can leave temporary color streaks on the skin when they become moist with perfume or perspiration. However, it's important to know that not all dyed gemstones have this problem. Use your best judgment when selecting colorful gemstone jewelry. If a color looks unnatural and thick, it is more likely to be a dye that may rub off onto the skin.

The size of the jewelry is also important. Would she use chunkier beads and pendants or smaller and lighter jewelry?

Think about her lifestyle. Would she prefer simple jewelry for daily wear or more elegant, dangling pieces?

Finally, consider buying designer handmade beaded jewelry created with semiprecious gemstones, Swarovski crystals, glass and other fine materials. You can find unique designs that are beautiful and affordable.

Regardless of what jewelry you choose, this is a gift she will never forget. After all, no woman can have enough jewelry.

To find uniquely different and exclusive handmade beaded designer jewelry visit http://www.justgetjewelry.com/handmade_beaded_jewelry.html featuring Baeza’s designs.

- About The Author
Maria L. Baez is the exclusive designer of Baeza's jewelry found at http://www.JustGetJewelry.com. This article may be used only in its entirety with all links included.

Are Middle Aged Men More Prone to Heart Disease? by: Mary Desaulniers

2006-11-26T13:16:00.000+08:00

For years, heart disease has been associated most prominently with middle aged men. However, recent studies have put this myth to rest. Dr. Robert Beaglehole , WHO Director of Chronic Diseases and Health Promotion, states that "the old stereotype of cardiovascular diseases affecting only stressed, overweight, middle-aged men in developed countries no longer applies." In fact the burden has shifted from gender to economics-- men, women, even children are at risk because 80% of those at risk come from low and middle-income families where healthy dietary and lifestyle habits are difficult to maintain. The emphasis in heart disease risk factors has shifted away from genetic disposition to lifestyle and diets. What this means is that no one is immune from heart disease because of gender and age. What it also means is that everyone has the ability to prevent heart disease by initiating active lifestyle changes.

At the bottom of this shift in attitude is a new understanding of the mechanism behind heart disease. Recent research suggests that atherosclerosis resulting from elevated cholesterol levels in the blood is not the major contributor to heart problems as once thought because half of the people who have heart attacks have normal cholesterol levels. Moreover, improved imaging techniques show that plague formation is not as critical in coronary fatalities as once assumed.

The culprit behind coronary events is now understood to be inflammation. Blood tests that measure C-reactive proteins (CPR) as prediction of heart attack are receiving a great deal of attention these days because elevated levels of this protein indicate active inflammation of the arteries. In fact, studies have shown that healthy middle-aged men with the highest CPR levels were 3 times as likely to suffer a heart attack in the next 6 years than those with the lowest CPR levels.

Think of inflammation as a double-edged sword: it enables the body's immune system to defend itself against invading pathogens; if not turned off, it becomes the culprit that turns the body's immune system against itself. The aftereffects of this unnatural chronic inflammation is more and more viewed by researchers to be the underlying cause not only of coronary problems, but of diseases like Alzheimer's, cancer and diabetes.

What does this new shift in thinking mean in terms of prevention?

a) Dr. Andrew Weil In "Healthy Aging" suggests that diet influences inflammation and strongly proposes that we adopt an anti-inflammatory diet that is rich in omega-3, fish, phytonutrients and low in sugar, high-glycemic carbohydrates and red meat. Such a diet would also reduce excess body fat and obesity-both contributing factors towards diabetes and heart disease.

b) Moderate aerobic and strength-training exercises that tone the heart muscle and improve the elasticity of arteries are also recommended as exercise increases mood enhancing endorphins and reduces stress which can cause cardiac arrhythmias.

) Stop Smoking. The risk of heart attack in smokers is more than double that of non-smokers.

d) Lower blood pressure with breathwork. Dr. David Anderson at the US National Institute of Health suggests that how we breathe may hold the key to how the body regulates blood pressure. Slow breathing not only elicits relaxation response but may also be able to break down the salt we eat. Excess salt is related to hypertension. Meditation and guided imagery visualization are all tools that expand on the use of breathwork.

e) New FDA regulation that requires nutrition labeling to clearly state how much trans fat a product contains will also do much to raise public consciousness of the perils of trans fat. At the same time, public campaigns to identify foods that lower LDL cholesterol are also underway. An example is the new cholesterol-lowering margarines that are fortified with plant sterols that block cholesterol absorption.

Heart disease is no longer the disease of overweight, highly stressed middle-aged men. All of us are empowered to view coronary problems as something we can change through lifestyle and dietary intervention. We can no longer hide behind the myth of "genetic" disposition or family history which unfortunately incapacitates us by indulging our excuse that we are victims of our physiology and that nothing can be done.

- About The Author
Mary Desaulniers A runner for 27 years, retired schoolteacher and writer, Mary is helping people reclaim their bodies. Nutrition, exercise, positive vision and purposeful engagement are the tools used to turn their bodies into creative selves. You can visit her at http://www.GreatBodyat50.com or learn how she lost her weight at http://greatbodyproteinpower.com.

Network Marketing: The Evil That Men Do by: Donovan Baldwin

2006-11-26T13:10:00.000+08:00

WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE ON THE SUBJECT OF NETWORK MARKETING:

"The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones." - William Shakespeare

I am sure that Mr. Shakespeare, as a struggling young playwright and actor in London, knew well the value of network marketing. In fact, probably most of his parts and opportunities came from his connections with those who could get him a part, back his play, and so on. I am sure he had a strong concept of networking.

It is also equally probable, particularly in light of the quote at the start of this article, that he understood what could happen to his networking efforts if he was found to be unable to backup claims about his product or service.

In the usual marketing scheme of things, advertisers buy the opportunity to place their offerings in front of large quantities of potential customers. In network marketing, the entrepreneur is often limited in budget and tends to contact potential customers or business partners one or two at a time. At best, he or she may put on a presentation for a small group. For most of us however, our broadest and most effective form of advertising comes from satisfied customers or business partners.

When a network marketing company or one of its representatives fails to live up to expectations, three things may happen:

1. The injured party becomes suspicious and distrustful of the representative at least, and perhaps may extend these feelings to the company as well.

2. The injured party becomes distrustful and suspicious of network marketing in general.

3. The injured party becomes a fine network marketer, spreading the word about the evil that was done him or her by this "network marketing" rip-off.

All network marketers depend on good words spoken of them by their customers and business partners. By acting greedily or by ignoring the needs and expectations of customers and business partners, not only are they diminishing their ability to function efficiently, but they are also recruiting new members for a very vocal group who view network marketing and multi-level marketing in a very negative light.

This was brought home to me recently when I attempted to purchase several hundred dollars worth of advertising on a site which reached a group of people who would have been excellent prospects for one of my products.

Let me make the point that this product is perfectly legitimate and can save users hundreds of dollars. The company has been in business for years, and has a very high internal code of ethics. It does, however, make all sales through network marketing using a multi-level marketing model.

The owner of the website refused to accept the advertising simply based on his argument that as it is a network marketing and multi-level marketing company, running ads for the company would tarnish the image his website has for integrity. He was willing to grant that the product seemed to be good and he could find no fault with it. However, because of what he felt would be a negative reaction to his being associated with this type of marketing; he refused to accept the advertising order.

We in network marketing know that much of this negative reaction comes from so-called MLM schemes such as the "Lawyer Brown" letter, or the "$90,000 in 90 Days" scam, as well as a multitude of questionable products and services that have been sold through "network marketing" or "multi-level marketing" business opportunity models.

It is generally stated by those who study customer dissatisfaction that a satisfied customer will tell from 3 to 5 others about his or her positive experience. That is good. That is what we are hoping for in network marketing. That is how we get the most "bang for our buck" whether we have paid out cold hard cash or invested in "sweat equity". However, the same studies indicate that a dissatisfied customer may also tell 4 or more other people about their NEGATIVE experience. What makes this particularly interesting is that according to the Customer Dissatisfaction Study released by the Verde Group and Baker Retailing Initiative at Wharton:

* "...Shoppers experiencing problems are five times more likely to tell a friend about it than contact the company", and...

* "...For every 100 American shoppers, 64 people will be told about a store's poor products or services and no matter what that store does to entice shoppers - sales, promotions, advertising, marketing - those people will not set foot in their store,"

* "...More than 50 per cent of Americans report that a negative shopping experience of a friend or colleague will prevent them from setting foot in a store altogether."

As you can imagine, as those people tell other people, those people will pass on what they have heard about you, your company, and network marketing in general. Ironically, that is also network marketing. You have some control over whether it is good or bad by how you select the companies you associate yourself with and how you treat your customers and business partners.

- About The Author
Donovan Baldwin is a Dallas area writer and network marketing professional. He is a graduate of the University of West Florida, a member of Mensa and is retired from the U. S. Army. Learn how to get your own domain name and create an internet business at http://donsdomains.ws.

The Biggest Mistake Men Make in Relationships by: Helene Rothschild

2006-11-26T13:03:00.000+08:00

"I don't understand," said Don. "My business is going well. I'm a good provider. I give my wife and the children everything they want. We live in a beautiful house and we drive expensive cars. Last winter I took the whole family on a trip to Mexico. I don't fool around with other women. I do play golf every Sunday with the guys. But a man needs some recreation. I don't understand why I seem to do so well at work, but when I come home I feel like a failure!

My wife, Sue, is always nagging me. She either has a headache or is too tired to be sexual. Sue spends outrageous amounts of money at her favorite sport, shopping. That woman finds more things to buy than I or she can ever get to use.

When I met Sue she was slim and attractive. She has put on at least twenty-five pounds and doesn't seem to take care of herself. Nor does she want to do anything for me. She won't iron my shirts anymore or get up early enough to make my breakfast. I'm lucky if I get a decent dinner once in a while. I'm sick and tired of not feeling good enough for her. No matter what I do, Sue is not happy.

My kids are disappointing too. They have so much more than I ever did. Do you think they're happy and grateful? No way. All they do is whine for more, watch television, or fight with each other. Their grades are nothing to rave about, and I know that they are bright. I talk to the other guys and they seem to have a similar scenario.

When Sue told me that she had called you, Helene, for an appointment I asked her why. She said that she was depressed. I asked Sue to talk to me about her problems but she wouldn't. She told me that I'm not hearing her. I think I do hear Sue. I hear her nag, nag, nag. Now she has threatened to leave me if I don't come to therapy too. There is nothing wrong with me. I'm a very successful man. Many people respect and admire me. I want you to know that I'm here but I only came because Sue made me, and I resent it.

"Don," I replied, "thank you for coming in and sharing all your frustrations. If it is any consolation, I want you to know that I have heard these same complaints hundreds of times before with the many couples I have counseled. You are unique, but your problem is not. You see, Don, you probably have been brought up like most men by your parents and society to believe that your role as a husband and as a father is to be the provider. From what you told me, you have learned your job well and are a success.

However, Don, a relationship requires much more than financial success. A relationship needs feelings expressed. It is interesting Don, that you never mentioned how much you love your wife and children."

"Of course, I love my family!" Don exclaimed. "They know that. I don't need to keep telling them."

"Don," I continued, "quite the contrary. They need to hear that you love them and they need to experience your caring by the things you say and do, and not just by what you give to them."

For example, Don, when was the last time you and Sue spent time talking or cuddling? Sue told me that you were romantic when you were dating but stopped after you were married. Keeping the romance alive is very important to most women. Send her flowers and cards, leave her loving notes, hug her when you come home, tell her you love her daily. Ask Sue how her day was, and listen to her. Don't try to solve her problems, just be supportive and let her know that her feelings are valid even if they are not logical.

Don, also be attentive to the children. Spend quality time with them, and be playful and loving. Let them know how much you care and appreciate them for who they are. Tell them to be their unique selves. Take the time to tuck them into bed and kiss them good-night.

You see, Don, you can't buy love. You have generously given them your money but what they want and need even more than that is you. What makes a difference in their lives is the quality of love they feel from you. That takes your time, your attention, and your willingness to express your feelings."

Don looked perplexed. He didn't realize that he was making the biggest mistake men make in relationships. He didn't realize that he wasn't giving himself. From Don's left brain (logical) perspective, he was doing everything right. It's true that he wasn't doing anything wrong. It was just that Don was missing a big piece of the puzzle.

To help Don really understand what I was expressing to him, I asked him to close his eyes and to imagine that his parents and he and Sue were standing in front of him. Don noticed the similarities in the two relationships, and the same problems. He realized that he had learned from his father how to be a husband, who had learned from his father and down through the generations. Unfortunately, Don had no feeling male models. Even his grandfather was always busy making a living, and rarely spent time with the family.

In the process, Don realized how much he missed feeling his grandfather's and father's love when he was growing up, and how much he needed it. Don also noticed that he never saw his father being affectionate and loving to his mother. He had no role model of how to express love to his wife and children.

Don continued to work with me and succeeded in healing his inner child and learning more loving ways to be and to communicate with his family. Sue also did the same. Don and Sue are now in a loving relationship with each other and the children. They were amazed how well the children responded to the expression of caring to each other and to them. The children started to do better in school and there were a lot less fights. In fact, Sue and Don pride themselves as a happy loving family.

- About The Author
Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, and author. Her new book, All You Need Is HART! Create Love, Joy, and Abundance-Now!" is a unique guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation. She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, a self-help on-line program, inspirational books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, cards, posters, independent studies, and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com , 1-888-639-6390.

Having Sex or Making Love by: Caterina Christakos

2006-11-20T16:28:00.000+08:00

Actually, the difference between the two concepts is bigger than some of us would like it to be. And, as almost every time, women feel it the most. What is the difference? Well, love. Women need to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in every day life.

Keep in mind that this is not just a legend used by women to manipulate men. The difference between having sex and making love, together with it's implications in a couple's sex life is what many men forget when sharing the bed-sheets with a woman.

Clearly, everything written so far will not apply to one-night-stands. In those cases it is all about a sexual intercourse between two people who only share their bodies. After the bottom line has been drawn, most men feel good about themselves after a one-night- stand, without thinking about their sexual performance. Totally pleasing a woman from the very first time is no easy job as the only mystery she had disclosed is her body.

Yet, most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just two reasons pleading in favor of having sex.

On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a woman making love. There are feelings and emotions, leading to a totally different connection between the two of them. More than that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is the environment. And this means everything from location to those few candles some like to place around the bed.

Let's take them in turn a little bit. If you want to leave her smiling and begging for a cigarette and some more there are some things you might like to take into consideration.

Trying dad's old car's rear suspension will make the car happier than her. The ideal location would certainly be a bed in a nice and cozy room with nothing interfering with the moment. Someone knocking on the door or even a ringing phone can have very undesirable effects. Some candle-like lights and easy-listening music in the background adds even more to the overall foreplay.

Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with your fingers and tongue, kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs, all in a specific order surrounding the most important area and closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension and when that moment comes both you and her will feel the difference.

Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay attention to the unspoken signs every woman gives them. Ignoring these signs will make women feel used. The old legend that says that when a woman says "no" she actually means "yes" is nothing more than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.

If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command and that's "don't stop!" When you hear that, whatever you do, DON'T STOP!

- About The Author
Caterina Christakos is a dating coach and published author. For even more in depth dating tips go to: http://www.seduction-hypnosis.com.

Secret Sex Spots

2006-11-20T09:23:00.000+08:00

Her Neck

Some think only the nape of a woman’s neck is an erogenous zone but for most women her entire neck is incredibly sensitive to stimulation. Run your fingers gently along it when kissing her (as well as along the base of her jaw line), blow on it lightly, break away from kissing her mouth and spend ample time planting kisses up and down her neck.

Her Ears

Ears are also very sensitive to touch, but you have to be careful because what one woman finds sexy in “ear-play” another might find distasteful. Some women love their ears kissed and even licked and others hate it. Play it safe in the beginning and kiss her lobes, even lightly tug on them with your teeth and kiss the base of her ears. Whisper sweet and wicked nothings here and you’ll really have her attention.

Her Feet

Want to get through a woman’s defenses and make her melt like butter? Give her a foot massage that’ll have her melting into your arms. But here again you have to move forward with caution. Everyone likes different pressure in their massage touch, so start gently and gradually make your grip and kneading stronger – asking for feedback as you go. Also note that many women are very ticklish, and very sensitive about having their arches touched. But with that being said, do a good job, and take direction and soon you’ll find her lovely thighs wrapped around you.

Her Hands

The hands are very sensitive, and though they’re not quite as sensitive as the lips, the action got a man’s point across just fine. Play with her hands. Stroke them, massage them, kiss and tickle her palms, and soon she’ll be using her hands to bring you all sorts of pleasure as well.

The Undersides of Her Arms

As just a rule of thumb, the undersides of everything on women are more sensitive to the touch. From her wrists, to the inside of her biceps, the underneath of a woman’s arms are incredibly sensitive to the lightest touch. Let your fingers do the walking up and don’t this area with light caresses and kisses and make her beg for more.

The Backs of Her Knees and Her Inner Thighs

Once you’ve made her feet happy, work your way up the back of her legs, tickle and kiss the sensitive backs of her knees and soon she’ll let her spend some serious time on her thighs. Her thighs are the gateway to heaven; so treat them right if you want to go inside! Remember that fools rush in. By the time you’re caressing her thighs she’s starting to get seriously turned on, but again you can get into trouble if you go too fast and make her think all you’re after is getting to your own thrills. A woman’s inner thighs are so sensitive she can enjoy your touch through her clothes, so make sure you do a lot of teasing and caressing in this area before you slip those jeans off, or that skirt up. And remember the under sides of her buttocks are incredibly sensitive too, spending time here, stroking and teasing her will really get her juices up.

Moving Towards the Inner Sanctum

So now that you’ve had a tour of the “outer” erogenous zones, you’re ready to start focusing on the “inner” ones – though of course you’ve been paying a lot of attention to her mouth this whole time. But be smart about it even now. Move back up to her breasts and her nipples, with kisses and caresses before you dive in and see how things are going under her hood. Taking the long slow erogenous road might take more time, and might even make her groan with frustration – but that’s a good thing. Because then she’ll be all the more ready when you finally arrive.

- Adrian Teng

Craft The Super Orgasm

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Time to put the pieces in place. TIMING IS ESSENTIAL. You’ve brought her to orgasm at least two or three times through genital manipulation. Now, start to cuddle again. You’ll find that this second round of cuddling is more purposeful than the first. Your date is more aware of her body and of yours, her body temperature has increased along with the atmosphere around you, her skin is sweaty, and her muscles are taut either from remembrance of the previous orgasm or anticipation of the next.

What you have is a girl who wants to cum again but needs a break. You’re about to trick her into believing she’s getting a break, but actually, you’re setting her up for the next round.

Here’s the timing:

1) Finish licking or rubbing her pussy, and make her cum.

2) Lie beside her and fondle her tenderly.

3) When she responds to any touch -- e.g. kissing her neck, licking inside her ear, pinching her nipples (these three are great starting points) -- keep that touch going.

4) Continue that touch until she cums.

5) Gently decrease your pressure while she cums, then pick right back up again before she’s completely done.

NOW she’s in a state of multiple orgasm. It takes a subtle hand, requiring you to "sense/listen" when to back off and when to go faster or rougher. Just keep building the orgasms wave on wave. In this state, the woman will cum when you BREATHE LIGHTLY on her neck. Her body is one big nerve just waiting to be struck, and you can have some real fun striking it. You’ll be amazed at the ways in which she responds, like a piano with a hundred keys.

Here’s a short list of touches you can use to cause an orgasm while she’s in this state:

1) Lick her labia (genitals are off limits for the first two orgasms of this phase, then revisit at your discretion).

2) Finger her (never fist).

3) Gently nibble or pinch her clit.

4) Suck her clit.

5) Lick her clit.

6) Lick her inner thigh.

7) Blow on her tummy.

8) Pinch or nibble her nipples.

9) Blow on her neck.

10) Lick her neck.

11) Try a number of different moves on her ears, including sucking the lobes and inserting your tongue.

12) Suck her toes -- works like a charm!

Tips To Getting Head From Your Partner

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1) Keep yourself clean. Chances are it's been hours since you bathed and that area gets filthy fast. So, show some consideration and wash-up before you ask your date to stick her nose down there.

2) Trim/Shave – Pubic hair tastes nasty and gets stuck in your teeth/throat. I'm not saying shave yourself bald; just trim it up a little, make it neat. You know how much a shaved pussy turns you on? Well, the reverse is true. So make that area trim and neat and she'll be more interested in spending time there.

3) Watch your diet – I don't mean watch your diet to lose weight. I mean watch it so your cum tastes good. You are what you eat. Your semen more so. Avoid acidy, high alkaline things like coffee, nicotine and junk food. If you live on coffee, cigarettes, and greasy hamburgers your semen probably tastes like battery acid. If you love her (or at least love getting head) add some fruit to your diet. Add some whipped cream to your coffee. I knew a man who put honey in his coffee and instead of sugar and his cum tasted great. The rule of thumb here is the healthier the diet, the better tasting the cum.

4) Ask her how she want it - Some women love it when you grab their head and take control. Some like to be sitting up with the guy standing. Some like to have the guy lying on his back and they like to crouch over him. Some like to lie on their backs and have the guy straddle their shoulders and feed them his cock. Some like to move around a lot. So, make sure you know what she likes ahead of time. A touch in the wrong pace at the wrong time can totally scare a woman off the process. Also, find out ahead of time if she'll swallow or spit. Have an old towel handy for her to spit into. Be patient if you need along time to get off and when she has to take a break. Those throat muscles get tired!

5) Be vocal – tell her hear how much you like it. She can't look at you at that moment – she's busy. If her eyes are open, she's look at the skin beneath your navel and above your cock. Chances are, though, her eyes are closed since that's really not much to look at. So, let her hear it. Moan, gasp, say something like "Oh that feels good." "I like all of it at lot!"

6) Respect the gag reflex – Stop trying to shove your cock in deeper when she's trying to come up for air.

7) Reciprocate – Make her cum with your mouth and she'll be happy to do the same for you.

Now, I'm not promising she'll be perfect at it. At least, not to start. But practice makes perfect so encourage her to keep trying. Be sure to tell her what you like and don't like.

Enjoy and have fun.

Bring Your Partner To Orgasm

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Your partner needs you to be a man and take charge here because most moan of joy and enjoyment are in the hands of the man. Your hands, fingers and lips will explore as much of her that she feels like you are trying to devour her completely. A man is a hunter and gatherer and that creature eats its prey.

Your hands and mouth are tools to taking her to female orgasm and making her yours. Don't be afraid of her fragility and softness, it is there for you to treat yourself with.

Her neck and shoulder area is a very sensitive area to the touch and licks. She will squirm and at the same time she can not resist you - staying within biting and suckling range. Not so hard till you hurt her or she coils away from you but to a degree where she leans into it and can't control the moans and whimpers erupting from her throat. You will know you are on the right track.

Female Orgasm Reached Through Her Clitoris And G-Spot

You have already got her moaning and groaning with both desire and anticipation for what could possibly happen next. Slowly, avance downwards. Chest to legs, all the way down using your hands and mouth. Slide your finger tip across her clitoris - it will be nice and moist by now.

You may tease her by sliding pass it to her thighs then back at her clitoris. Gently rub it on the clitoris with just your finger tip driving you both crazy for more to be touched. When that happens slide two fingers at once inside of her and push deep the very first time you penetrate her. She will be nice and wet and be able to take you and she will let out a moan that feels as if she wants to cry with joy.

Tease her like this for a while, stroking in and out only infrequently so she is unable to get used to it and it feels new and fresh each time. Go nice and deep and probe with your finger tips to excite her. You have your superhero cape on now and it is time to rejuvenate yourself by putting your mouth on her and licking her.

Simply put your soft tongue tip on her clitoris and push down on it - when she thinks you are about to stroke it with your tongue - suck on her clit hard (no teeth) deep between your lips.

She will let out a yelp as if she had just lost her virginity. You're on your way to reaching the female orgasm.

How Do I Find The G Spot?

Located right behind the pubic bone & on the "front" wall of her vagina, THAT IS WHERE you will find it. Half Way between her cervix and pubic bone and you are there!

Manipulation of her G-SPOT is to bring her to orgasm and hopefully some silky female ejaculation. The greatest reward here is if you have ever had sex with a woman who just "came" on your mouth or finger.

How Do You Operate This Thing?

When you get to the G-SPOT don’t be concerned about whether or not she is going to have an orgasm – be concerned with whether or not you are doing it right. If you have a good prehensile grip and are patient in finding the G-SPOT and unselfish about how long you will "work it" then more than likely she will reach climax.

To get G Spot orgasms, your job is to literally massage the G-spot. While doing so make sure you are manipulating other parts of her body like her "lips" and most especially her "clitoris". Put in the work – this means, massaging, and licking, sucking, biting, and manipulating the spot.

It is important that you focus on every hand movement, moan, groan, and "yes" that comes out of her mouth while you are working down under.

Remember, to get to the female orgasm you are the man and you can not be afraid of pleasing her. She is on your lap and grinding her little clitoris on you and making you sopping wet and you can tell from her motions and sounds she is about to come - you reach around at the point of her orgasms inception and slowly slide your finger in her back door and push a little more until she can't take it… take her there because she wants to see how far she can go before the explosion engulfs you both.

Buying Women's Pajamas: A New Sexy Choice For A Gift by: Mario Churchill

2006-11-18T11:50:00.000+08:00

Women's pajamas are already included in today's modern definition of lingerie. Lingerie is not all about sexy panties, teddies, bustier, sleepwear, or thongs. It includes all linen articles, garments, and underwear. Women and men alike are all enjoying the many choices of undergarments now available in the market.

You can find pajamas made of nylon, silk, cotton, lace, and many more. And aside from that, you can choose from a range of colors; from pastel colors like lavender and pink to bold ones like black and red.

Most of today's pajamas appear in all sizes and shapes. You can choose among feminine, luxury, classic, fun, sexy and maternity/nursing pajamas.

If you want to buy luxurious lingerie, you can expect to pay a larger than the usual price. These types of garments are made by 'well-known' designers. However, most undergarments are reasonably priced. Including pajamas, all undergarments are available online and in local stores.

If you want to shop around and look for the best possible pajama-gift, you can hop from store to store. If budget is a problem, you can look for a good buy without sacrificing the quality of the garment. There are a lot of local stores that you can check out.

If you're considering giving pajamas as a gift, here are several steps to consider:
- what's your relationship with the recipient

- choose a style and the fabric; there are nightgown styles, and others can be made of satin, silk, and cotton

- you can find the best variety and price in apparel shops, department stores, and online sites

- choose a color scheme; does she prefer a floral mélange, cartoon themes, plaids, or solid colors

- find the right size; whether small, medium or large, and if you are not that sure, it would be better to go for a much smaller size

- you can compliment the pajamas together with a towel set or a matching robe

- make sure that you give extra effort on the gift wrapping; you can also top it off with a book, a tea, etc

All it takes is a little creativity. Add personal touches on the gift. Your friend or loved one will be very much surprised once she opens the gift and finds a beautiful pajama inside. She will most likely be flattered with your exotic gift and would be eager to try it on immediately.

It would be better to give pajamas as a gift to a very close girl friend or a loved one. You personally know her preferences so choosing for the one that would meet her taste will not be a problem. Make sure that you choose a pajama that she will like; don't make a purchase simply because you like it. Remember that you're there to buy a present, and not to buy you're very own pajamas.

For many years, the lingerie industry is growing more and more every year. This means that more women are becoming aware of the need to feel confident and comfortable from within. They are slowly coming out of their shell, young and old. There is no required age to feel comfy and sexy.

Your special loved one or friend is sure to spend a cozy night being comfortable, wearing the pajamas that you gave.

- About The Author
Mario Churchill is a freelance author and has written over 200 articles on various subjects. For more information checkout http://www.caprirose.com and http://sleepwear.name.

Drinking and Sex - Should You? by: Yair Czitrom

2006-11-16T22:31:00.000+08:00

Drinking is known as the number one 'panties/boxers remover' in the whole world. We all know that we should not drink and drive, but what about drinking and running to bed? We are not so sure about that, and those who have experienced having sex after drinking will probably agree and remember how big the mistake is.

Here are 7 reasons why not to drink and run to bed:

*The mature lover

The mature ladies love to have sex and like all of us they have that need. If we are talking about the ladies that are quite old, they have defiantly that need and probably have not done it for a long time. She will wait for you while you get drunk in the bar, and when you are done with you 5 th drink she will get you. Some of you will say: 'great'. Ok, we all have are style.

* Unknown sexual background

She is blonde, she has a great figure and she is willing to get to bed with you after the second drink...but she will wait until you are done with the bottle, so it will be more difficult for you the notice the 'extra' body part she has.

* Your best friend

You always knew that he is a bit different, and every time you have looked at a great looking girl's breasts, he was looking at her boyfriend's ass. Even though he does not fancy you, he will after the 3 rd drink, and you start to have the ';I need some sex' feelings. After your 3 rd drink you start compromising...and then you wake up in the morning! Now you need to face it.

* The Weight issue

She is sexy, she is pretty, she does not say no and she is about 15 sizes more then you when it is coming to fashion. The sex might be great, but you back aches will be there for years to remind you that moment when you said YES to her...when she asked you if it is ok if she will sits on you.

* From the outside and underneath

Yea, she looks amazing with that mini skirt and when you drink, you do not really get down to the bottom of the details, but the next day, just thinking about what you have been licking could make you sick.

* Act of force.

She looks great and she wants sex...but she is also very 'active' person. If you are into it - great, otherwise, you might find out that the woman of your dreams is a sado queen that wants you here and now as here little wick salve. You might find out that her meaning of sex includes cleaning the house and some other things that you do not really feel like when you are drunk.

*The sticky punch line

All went extremely well. You guys had an amazing evening, and you might even love her for that...but now you will have to pay for it for the rest of your life...as you were so drunk that you married her.

If you are really looking for a one night stand come to http://www.onenighstanddate.com...it is free.

- About The Author
Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of http://www.onenightstanddate.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other fun seekers in today’s cyber world. He is an expert writer on ezinearticles.com and searchwarp.com

G Spot Positions: Our Favorite 3 Positions to Hit Your G Spot During Sex by: Nathan Patmor

2006-11-16T22:16:00.000+08:00

I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, its time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.

If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!

So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For a refresher course, check out this page on the g spot location. You also may want to try a finding the g spot exercise first.

From here on, we’re going to assume that you (and your partner) know where your g-spot is, and how to best stimulate it to give you pleasure.

Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.

In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.

And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!

Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)

I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.

As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)

Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.

You’ll also get a great workout! : )

Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.

I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.

Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)

This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.

Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.

However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)

Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.

This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.

We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.

Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)

We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)

Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)

Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!

- About The Author
Nathan Patmor. Find and explore your g spot. Enjoy amazing sex and a better relationship. Find tips, techniques, and exercises written by a real couple. www.master-your-g-spot.com

Sexy Holiday Gift Ideas by: Lance Russell

2006-11-16T22:08:00.000+08:00

If you’re looking for a gift that’s a little sexy or a bit naughty you’ll find some fun ideas how to spice up the eggnog below. These choices are not your standard lingerie gifts. You, your partner and your love life will all benefit when you give your significant other something sexy for the Holidays. You’ll be able to share memorable intimate moments and you don’t need to spend a fortune.

A lightly scented massage oil can be appreciated by both sexes. A nice oil greatly adds to the massage experience and massage is a perfect way to gain intimacy with your partner. You can take the experience one step further by adding an instructional DVD on Erotic Massage from Sinclair. Perhaps surprisingly, there are many massage techniques to arouse your lover. This DVD covers sexual techniques for both men and women.

An even more complete overview of sexual positions and techniques is the “Better Sex Series” DVDs from Sinclair Intimacy Institute. These 3 DVDs cover more than four hours of sexual advice from doctors and other sexual professionals explicitly demonstrated by couples.

Another fun category of sexy toys for couples to enjoy is vibrators. There are thousands of vibrators to choose from, some are sexually graphic in the form of a penis and others don’t reveal their intended purpose at all. Two very popular sexually stealth vibrators are the Layaspot Vibrator by Fun Factory and the Hitachi Magic Wand.

The Layaspot Vibrator is a lovely, romantic Christmas gift for a woman with a unique shape that is perfect for use during intimate moments together or along. The Layaspot fits in the palm of your hand and measures about the size of a computer mouse with a slightly more curvaceous, sensuous form. It runs on 2 AAA batteries and offers three different vibration settings—escallating, pulsating and standard one-level. The Hitachi Magic Wand was designed as a back and body massager and works great for that purpose; however, this plug in the wall vibrator continues to be one of the most popular sex toys for the last twenty years. It offers an exceptionally strong vibration and never runs out of batteries like vibrators do.

A new fun category of vibrators has emerged from the adult toy industry—the Remote Controlled Vibrator. These vibrators can be worn under clothing and controlled with a remote by your partner from up to 30 feet away.

If you’re looking for a beautiful pleasure toy for the Holidays hand-blown glass dildo works of art are spectacularly beautiful and erotic. Pleasure Toys and Phallix offer a wide range of stunning functional glass art works with price ranges from about $40 to as much as $300 for glass phallic pieces with incredibly intricate patterns inside. You ask, why would anyone use a glass sex toy? You’ll be surprised to learn that glass dildo toys are the fastest growing segment of the huge adult toy industry. Many people love the cool feel of glass on their skin and glass toys are completely hygienic, unlike latex sex toys.

These are a few of the fun, sexy gifts you can share with your partner this Holiday, but you probably don’t want to open these gifts in front of the kids.

- About The Author
Lance Russell is the author of the book "Recipes for Better Sex: 75 Delicious Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life" and he has lectured on human sexuality at Universities in California. In addition, he is co-owner of the adult toy store www.PleasureMeNow.com.

12 Simple Steps To Overcoming Shyness With The Opposite Sex

2006-11-16T21:59:00.000+08:00

Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.

Below, I've listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren't magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.

Step 1. Fake it until you make it!

This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!

Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.

Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.

Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.

Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, but it works!

Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.

Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"

Step 5. Role play situations that make you anxious.

This may sound silly but take time out alone to Play-act situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.

Step 6. Dress to impress.

Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.

Step 7. Positive goals.

Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple - by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.

Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of shyness.

This goes along the same lines as using daily affirmations or by reading self help books. By changing your perception of shyness instead of having a negative attachment to the word, you will then help re-create your outlook on it.

Step 9. Learn to take risks.

How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes. As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!

Step 10. Face your fears!

Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.

Step 11. Get those dates.

A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is the most successful way to rid your shyness but this takes a lot of nerve so date 'at your own risk'.

Step 12. Last but not least, be honest! Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well. By just telling them you feel the same will help to put them at ease too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure to go much better.

- About The Author

Roger Mayne is author of 100 First Date Ideas. Impress your date by being different to all the others. Take her somewhere she's not been before. 100 First Dates reveals great ideas that will sweep her off her feet, and have you looking like a complete hero.

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What To Do If A Sexy Woman Makes Fun Of You? by: John Alanis

2006-11-16T21:57:00.000+08:00

Every now and then I'll get an email from a guy telling me how a sexy woman made fun of him, and that now he's afraid to talk to women because they might make fun of him. Or, I'll hear from a guy who's unhappy in his relationship because his wife or girlfriend makes fun of him.

What should you do if a sexy woman makes fun of you? The answer might surprise you, because a woman making fun of you can actually be a good thing, not a crushing blow to your confidence... IF you understand it for what it is.

First off, I'll tell you a little secret about myself. Sexy women make fun of me all the time. Yep, every single day they have something to say, something that makes fun of me. And you know what? I like it! Why? Because it gives me an opportunity to 1) let her know that whatever she says about me bothers me not in the least and 2) poke fun back at her to the point where we're both having a good time.

When you develop a strong, attractive self image, there's nothing anyone can say that's going to impact you in any way. Who cares if a woman has something negative to say about you--when you can create attraction on demand, there's always plenty of sexy women with good things to say.

Also, understand this: when a sexy woman "makes fun" of you, it's simply a test to see how you'll respond. She's testing to see if your self image is strong enough to be made fun of, she's testing to see if you have a sense of humor that will make her laugh in return, and she's testing for authority in you to see if you can take it (and give it) without any impact on your emotional state whatsoever.

Most guys fail this test because they get pissed, or start to whine or take any other action that shows they have a weak self image. When you can easily pass it by making a naughty comment back, and poking fun at her (in a good spirited way) you'll create attraction for her most other guys can't.

So, if a woman makes fun of you, see it for what it is: an opportunity to create attraction. She wouldn't be talking to you if she at least didn't have some initial interest.

- About The Author
John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You", is author of the "Women Approach You" system at http://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is at http://www.johnalanis.com.

Men, Women, and Sex by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

2006-11-16T21:52:00.000+08:00

During my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in committed relationships. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.

There is a very good reason why these are the most common complaints – men and women are very different when it comes to sex!

The biological sexual drive, or lack of it, relates to how much testosterone is present. Men biologically have much more testosterone than women. Men’s biology equips them to be ready for sex most of the time, which is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species. Women, on the other hand, often do not experience a biological sexual drive unless they are in the middle of their menstrual cycle. This fact can create a big problem in relationships.

I’ve often heard men complain that:

“It’s not fair. My wife is in control of our sex life. If she wants it, then we have it. If she doesn’t, then I have no say about it. Why does it always have to be her way?”

“My wife complains that she needs to feel intimate before we make love, but I get to intimacy through making love.”

“I don’t reach out for sex much anymore because I’m tired of being rejected, but my wife says she wants to be pursued in a romantic way. This feels like a no-win to me.”

“I think if my wife really cared about me and my needs, she would have sex with me even when she wasn’t turned on.”

I’ve often heard women complain that:

“He always seems to be ready for sex, but I don’t feel turned on unless we are feeling close. I can’t just watch TV all evening and then feel like making love.”

“I often feel pulled on for sex, as if having sex is more important than caring about me. When I do what he wants, I feel used, and when I don’t, I run into his anger, resentment, blame or withdrawal. It feels like a no-win.”

“My husband often comes to me like a needy little boy, wanting me to pacify him or validate him with sex. Ugh! There is nothing erotic about an insecure, needy little boy!”

“There must be something wrong with me. I just don’t ever feel turned on anymore.”

The very real issue here, at least for most men under 40, is that they are biologically motivated and women are mostly emotionally motivated. Heterosexual women get turned on when their man is warm, open, caring, and personally powerful. Most women are not turned on by a man who is closed, distant, angry, blaming, or needy.

The problems of frequency can get resolved as men and women learn to understand and accept each other’s differences. Men need to understand and accept that women are not as biologically motivated as men are. Many women rarely even think about sex, while most men will tell you that they think about sex frequently throughout the day. When men understand that women are turned on by love, romance, emotional intimacy, warmth, caring, and personal power, then men may be motivated to learn to be the loving, powerful and romantic partners that women want and need.

When women can accept that men’s biology is very present for them, they can stop putting men down for it and start supporting their men in creating more emotional intimacy, romance, and personal power. When women criticize men instead of understanding and accepting them, they help to create some of the insecurity that is such a turn off to many women. When a woman can appreciate rather than demean her man for his sexuality, she can find ways of meeting his needs without feeling used.

Understanding and accepting each other’s differences and needs can lead both men and women toward more satisfying sex lives.

- About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.

Better Sex Tips for Couples by: Leah Holden

2006-11-16T20:55:00.000+08:00

One recent survey in America concluded that approximately 50% of new marriage will end in divorce. The same survey also indicated that the trend is on the rise.

This is a sad truth and they are many reasons which contribute to a marital split, for example, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of a satisfying sex life etc.

In this article, I am going to reveal some better sex tips for couples. Sex is one of the key elements to help maintain a strong and sustainable love life. It helps to build a strong bond between the couples and makes both of them come closer together.

Every couple needs sex for pleasure. It is necessary that all couples maintain their tempo of having sex throughout their married life. Having regular sex has proved to keep the relationship between the couples healthy and also helps to keep the fights at bay. How frequent should a couple have sex? The answer is depends, some couples enjoy having sex once a week, others three times a week and there are other couples who have sex everyday. At the end of the day, it all comes down to what feels right and satisfying for the particular couple.

In order to have better sex, both partners should take active participation in the sexual act. You should know your partner's hot buttons and know when to press it! You should not just be a spectator to the sexual act. In the end, there are chances that you and your partner will not be satisfied and you will be frustrated. A trick to overcome this is to always remember the best sex that both of you had and your only duty is to deliver a sexual performance which surpass the last best experience. This is called continuous sexual improvement and a valuable trick to sustain a life long relationship.

Better sex for couples also includes being confident in the sexual act. You should also look, smell and feel good. No one would like to have sex with a person who has bad breath and whose body gives a foul order. Sex can be performed anywhere. It is not necessary to have sex in the bedroom.

Sex can be performed on the sofa, in the basement,under the stairs, in the car, in the garden shade, on the beach etc. The location and whereabout is only limited to your own imagination and creativity.

To enjoy better sex, both partners should have the same amount of passion between each other. Sex does not start under the sheets. It can start during the day like giving your partner a passionate kiss when he leaves for office or holding each other's hands in the park.

You should never plan the whole sexual act in advance but keep it spontaneous. The moves can change according to the situation. It is fine if you plan the first few moves in advance though to warm up the atmosphere.

Another very important tip for having better sex is foreplay. It is absolutely essential before you get into the actual act of making love. This is because foreplay breaks the ice and also creates a lot of excitement in you and your partner and makes you ready for the final act.

You can also create a romantic environment in your bedroom by lighting exotic candles, keeping the room dimly lit and decorating the room with flowers. This proves to be a perfect setting for your sexual act.

In the end, remember to tell your partner how exciting and pleasurable the whole sexual experience was and you would definitely love to do it more often.

- About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com

Juicy Tips for Better Sex by: Leah Holden

2006-11-14T23:02:00.000+08:00

It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.

Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.

The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.

Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.

The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.

The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.

Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.

Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.

Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.

Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.

Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.

You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.

At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.

- About The Author Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com

Fifty One Mistakes Men Make When Having Sex

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Just in case you thought the route to sexual bliss was straightforward, here's a list of things to avoid. They're all pretty much guaranteed passion killers for a woman - and if your check list contains more than ten of these, you've got some serious work to do on your sexual etiquette!

1 Going straight for the naughty bits

You've got to be sensitive to the fact that a woman is more likely to be irritated than aroused when a man dives for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes' perfunctory kissing. While you might get to feel the goods, you're not going to be invited back.

2 Not knowing how to kiss sensitively

Passionate or sensitive, firm or gentle, good kissing is an art form which lubricates the wheels of sex and gets everyone in the mood for more intimacy. Learn how to kiss, and do it well. That doesn't mean sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around like you're trying to floss her teeth.

3 Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to our penises. So if you touch her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you masturbate, she's most likely to howl with pain - and then kick you out of bed. Remember: the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis, in a much smaller area. Treat it with respect. It's the only organ in the human body that has no function other than to provide pleasure.

4 Not stroking and caressing her

A woman's second biggest sex organ is her skin. (The first is her mind.) You can make your touch on any part of her body into a sexy caress, but you have to focus on what you're doing and put some sexual energy into your fingers while you caress her. That means not thinking about the baseball game while you're giving her a sensuous massage.

5 Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child

Yes, we know it's fun for you. To her it just feels like she's got a teething infant hanging off her breast. Lick and kiss around her whole breast before you go for the nipple, then flick your tongue gently across the nipple and around the areolae. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure.

6 Biting on her earlobe because you think it's sexy

She may not agree with you. In which case it will just be irritating for her, not a prelude to her turning into the sex goddess you thought you were summoning up.

7 Leaving a hickey on her neck like a teenage badge of honor

If you're over sixteen, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under sixteen.

8 Not shaving before sex

When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her face isn't so sexy, but at least it'll produce a red rash she can remember you by.

9 Not washing your pits and bits before you have sex

If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to scratch. Even though men have a higher smell threshold than women, keeping yourself clean - especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy (like under your foreskin) - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.

10 Forgetting she has a sensuous body waiting to be stroked

Pretty much the same point we already made up above, but worth remembering: touch doesn't just have to be in the bedroom, a prelude to sex. In fact, if you touch her a lot in a loving way during the day, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime.

11 Trying to get your fingers in her underwear before she's ready

This is the mark of a gauche teenage lover who wants to get to fourth base just so he feels more accomplished as a lover. Take your time, let things evolve naturally, and apply a little sensuous touch on the fabric covering her vulva before you dive under the elastic. The hint of what's to come is often more erotic than diving straight in there.

12 Dropping the condom on the floor

Must we say why this isn't the most popular move post sex? Dispose of the condom tidily in a tissue - put it in the bin rather than down the toilet, or it's likely to float there for some time to come as a reminder of your sexual encounter.

13 Going straight for the clitoris during oral sex or masturbation

Like we said above, most women just find this irritating - and, if you press too hard, bloody uncomfortable too. Your first caresses should be on her labia, the lips of her vulva, then as she gets more aroused, you can work nearer the clitoris itself. But even when she's aroused a soft touch along the sides of her clitoris may be more acceptable for her than any pressure on the head of her clitoris.

14 Breaking off just as she's getting to the point where she wants you to keep going at all costs

Women often get so lost in their sexual arousal that they forget to give feedback. In reality, the fact that she's lying there quietly may actually mean she loves what you're doing; if so, you should feel her pressing her vulva against your mouth or fingers, or shifting like she wants more touch, rather than giving you a sense that she'd rather be out shopping.

15 Undressing her clumsily

Listen up guys: you don't have to be able to take her bra off with one hand, behind her back, while kissing her. In fact, in my experience, it's better if you don't try. She probably puts it on by fastening it first and pulling it over her head anyway. Let her take off the garments you don't understand, and whenever you do lend a helping hand, undress her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you're ripping the paper off a birthday present.

16 Undressing yourself inelegantly - which includes taking your socks off after your underwear

Nothing is more comical (or pathetic) to a woman than a man in his socks and pants. Except possibly a naked man wearing socks. If you don't understand why, just accept that it is so.

17 Expecting her to shave for you

You might like the baby smooth look around her vulva, but she's more likely to see this as a prickly route to itchy stubble. Ask her nicely if you'd like her to go smooth. If she says "no", accept that graciously.

18 Sticking a finger up her vagina before she's ready, willing and able

In general, women do like to be penetrated just as much as men like to penetrate, which, considering how much men like to stick things up there, is just as well. However, she'll only want you to do this when the time is right - i.e. when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. If you're giving her clitoris attention, there'll be a point where she might like to have a finger or two inside her. If so, be gentle, and start with one finger on her G-spot. Make sure she enjoys this before you put another one up there. Two fingers on her G-spot is probably as much as she will want. And be just as firm with your touch as she finds pleasurable. If you don't know what the G-spot is, then do some Google-ing before you get into bed.

19 Entering her without asking her first

What is it with men and these dark, wet places? Just keep in mind that she decides how far sex goes, and if she doesn't want to enjoy intercourse then don't press the point. This applies especially to any strategy that involves nudging your penis into position and then pressing forward without her consent, verbal or otherwise! Having said that, you don't always need to ask "May I enter you?" though it can be a romantic and sexy thing to do if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex.

20 Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can't find the way in

This is, by all accounts, many women's least desired sexual moment. If for any reason you can't get in, don't pretend you're in control and keep trying. Simply ask her to guide you in with her hand. That way you'll save a lot of embarrassment, not to mention time.

21 Pumping away without regard for her pleasure

When you've achieved your most desired objective, and your penis is inside her, you'll want to show a certain consideration for her pleasure. She may want hard and fast thrusting, but it's best to start slow and shallow. While you're making love, she'll most appreciate your efforts if you're masculine and strong - which is to say, if you act like you know what you're doing, you're considerate and gentle at first, and work up to firm and strong thrusts if she likes them.

22 Expecting her to make love bottom up

Yes, we all enjoy rear entry. But she may be more self-conscious of her butt, she may feel like a sex object, and she may not like the rather impersonal nature of this position. If you really want to do it, and you explain to her why you like it so much (i.e. "It's incredibly exciting to see your gorgeous bottom as we make love", rather than "I get so turned on fucking from behind") she'll probably co-operate from time to time, even if it's only on your birthday and hers.

23 Thrusting too hard

If you happen to be well-endowed, or she has a short vagina, and you thrust too hard, you may end up banging her cervix. This can make her shriek, though sadly not with sexual pleasure.

24 Coming before she's got excited or begun to enjoy sex

There aren't many men who can last long enough to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. If you can't be bothered learning how to be a long lasting lover, then at least have the decency to keep going for a few minutes so she gets some pleasure. This isn't hard, and there are plenty of ways you can learn to extend intercourse and not come so quickly. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". See also number 26.

25 Not coming at all - or losing your erection when you put the condom on

If you're one of that rarer breed of men who has trouble coming during intercourse, may we respectfully suggest you see a sexual therapist? You can then deal with this problem, learn to come more quickly, and avoid giving her a numb vagina and an intimate knowledge of the exact shade of color you painted your bedroom ceiling. If you're one of the many men who lose their erection when the condom comes out of its foil wrapper and onto the head of your penis, it's back to Google for a search on, surprisingly enough, "losing erection when putting on a condom".

26 Asking her how it was for her

This is not the mark of a confident lover, so if you really want some feedback, phrase it thus: "Did you prefer it when I did X or Y?"

27 Not going down on her when she wants oral pleasure

Since oral sex on a woman is so pleasurable for most men, this seems unlikely. But if it's a question of the smell or taste being a bit much for you, try taking a shower or bath together before sex. If you just want her to fellate you and you simply can't be bothered to reciprocate with cunnilingus, then reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.

28 Failing to give her pleasure if you come quickly

Remember the motto: "Women come first!" As a man, you're probably going to lose interest in sex once you've ejaculated - at least for a while. In which case, make sure she comes through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her. That way, she gets her pleasure and so do you. (With the added bonus that it doesn't matter so much if you shoot quite quickly.) Just to enter her, thrust a few times, come, roll over and forget about her is the mark of a boorish lover, and you wouldn't want to be one of those, now would you?

29 Trying to force her head towards your cock

Let's face it: she's either willing to give your oral sex or she's not. Trying to persuade her to get her lips around your glans by edging her head towards your groin is a bit crass, to say the least. If she doesn't seem to be heading that way as things hot up, just ask her: "There's something you could do that'd give me so much pleasure....."

30 Trying to force her head further down on your cock when she's giving you oral

Yes, once again we know it feels good, but you have to be considerate about it. She's not likely to be a deep throat expert, and there's no reason why she should be, since most of the pleasure of oral sex comes from the action of her tongue on your glans. Keep your hands away from her head unless it's to gently stroke her hair, and you won't feel the temptation to encourage her to go deeper.

31 Holding her head when she goes down on you

Pretty similar to number 28, but this time, holding her head and moving it up and down on your penis is the no-no. If you think that's acceptable sexual etiquette you've been watching too many of the wrong kind of films.

32 Coming in her mouth without asking her if it's OK

The taste of semen is very much an acquired taste; unfortunately it's one that few woman ever acquire. If she doesn't like it, ask her to keep going until the last minute, then tell her when you're going to come so she can move back and finish the job with a well-lubed hand. You'll get just as much pleasure, and she won't have to gag or spit your semen out. By the way, accidentally forgetting to tell her you're going to come is not permitted.

33 Thinking that a porno movie has anything to do with real life

Porn is not good for men's egos. Real life isn't like that, OK?

34 Switching on a hard core porn film without asking whether that's OK with her

Even if you find it arousing, she's not likely to, for the simple reason that much of the porn available today is fairly abusive to women. Ask her first, and if you want to share the erotic thrill of watching people have sex, get hold of some romantic sex movies that will appeal to her emotions as well as her sex drive.

35 Apologizing for the size of your penis

Just in case you ever feel inclined to apologize for not matching up to the guys in the wrong kind of movies, just remember: 98% of women would rather have a sensitive lover than one with a big penis. If you're with one of the other two percent, you need to find a new lover.

36 Answering honestly when she asks you what your last lover was like

Guys, when a woman asks you if her butt is too big, do you tell her the truth? Enough said. Your current lover is always the most gorgeous, sexy and desirable woman around. Even if she doesn't really believe it, that's what she wants to hear.

37 Asking her if she'd mind if her girlfriend joined you

Threesomes can be exciting, but they usually just cause jealousy and upset when one partner unexpectedly finds they don't want their partner making out with another person. Needless to say, this usually happens to the woman. So be sure, be very sure, you know what you're doing before you try this one.

38 Making her do all the work

Changing positions is all very well, but asking her to ride you each time you have sex seems a bit one sided. Vary the positions, have fun, and take equal shares of the work. Don't just settle for one favorite position and flog it to death.

39 Trying to slip it in the back door by "accident"

Anal sex is something that a lot fewer couples have tried than you'd believe from what you read on the internet or see in porn. It's something you might like to try, but you both have to want to do it. She's not likely to respond with warmth if you keep pretending you're poking her anus by accident. And she won't believe you if you tell her you just didn't want to ask for directions, even if that's how you are when you're driving around lost, looking for somewhere.

40 Photographing or videoing your lovemaking

Unfortunately, as many jilted lovers can testify, taking pictures while you enjoy sex is putting power in the hands of the person who has the pictures. A good compromise is to link your video camera direct to your TV without recording the images. That way you can have the erotic thrill of seeing yourself during sex without having to worry about seeing yourself having sex on the internet in a few years' time.

41 Getting into the same old same old routine every time you have sex

Above almost everything else (except possibly being deeply in love), ringing the changes when you make love is the thing that will keep your sex life fresh and passionate. You'll be surprised just how exciting it can be when you try a new position. This is simply because every position puts a different pressure on the penis and vagina, or gives you a new perspective of your partner's body, or perhaps allows you to see entering your partner's body, and so on. Exactly which sex position feels most pleasurable will depend on the shape and size and shape of your penis and her vagina.

42 Not romancing her Women love romance

Men put up with it, or do it to get sex. True or false? Probably true, but the romantic "chase" is deeply rewarding for most men (i.e. seducing and winning a woman makes us feel deeply fulfilled), and romance is an essential part of that process. If you're able to continue being romantic once you're an established couple, then you set yourself head and shoulders above the rest of your fellow men, and you stand that much greater chance of getting regular, passionate sex.

43 Slapping her buttocks without checking if she's into a little dominance play

No mater how exciting you may find the idea, don't land a heavy slap on her butt without trying a few lighter ones first and seeing how she reacts. If you do, you may get a slap in the face. Or a kick in the balls.

44 Trying to do sex by the book (or the film)

Don't copy the moves you see in porn films. They lack a certain something. Consideration for the woman, that would be. 43 Playing with her anus before she's excited enough to appreciate it When you're masturbating her clitoris, and you have a finger inside her vagina, you may find that she responds well to a little anal play. If you have the position right, you can use your little finger to tickle gently at her anus as your forefinger plays with her G-spot. This may well add to her excitement - especially if she's on the verge of orgasm. If you try this before she's really excited and has stopped caring what's happening to her, you might just turn her off completely, so it might not be a bad idea to check it out with her in advance.

45 Deafening her by shouting in her ear when you come

An easy mistake to make, especially if you like to have sex in the man on top position lying close to your partner, and you like to let the world know when you come. Unfortunately she won't let you do it a second time, so bury your face in the pillow or something if you're prone to uncontrollable vocal ejaculations as well as physical ones.

46 Talking dirty without checking if she likes it

Generally a little consensual dirty talk between adults adds to the excitement. The first time your partner tells you to f*** her hot wet c*** you'll see what I mean. If that hasn't happened yet, and you'd like it to, encourage her to talk dirty to you when you're making love, and see what pops out of her mouth. You might be surprised. Remember legend has it that the quiet ones are often the most surprising in bed!

47 Lying on top of her without supporting your weight on your arms

Always remember: a gentleman takes his weight on his arms. Or elbows, or knees, or something.

48 Ejaculating on her without asking permission

Coming between her breasts or on her vulva or bottom can be incredibly exciting, but it's nice to ask her first. She may see it less a mark of your ejaculatory prowess or manhood than a mess to clear up.

49 Not controlling your ejaculation

Like we said before, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.

50 Not spending some time with her in your arms after sex

A man who gets up after he's done the business and sets about his daily routine is probably top of most women's sexual dislikes. For her, this is a special time when a woman feels very close to her partner. She takes much longer to come down from sex than a man does, she wants to know she's loved and special, and she wants to feel adored by the man to whom she has just given her most precious asset. The very least you can do is to spend a half hour or so cuddling her while you relax after making love, even if you're not going to spend the night with her.

51 Not cleaning up after sex

And since sex inevitably involves a certain amount of fluids, keep the tissues handy for afterwards. If you feel like being chivalrous, offer her a warm towel to clean herself, especially if you aren't using condoms. There you go! And if you've got any more sexual tips for sexual success, send them to us at the email address in the box below.

Foreplay Tips Before Sex

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Understand that she needs a longer time to reach her climax. This is one thing you should remember. A good foreplay heats things up and shorten the time spent for her to reach her climax. How would you feel if your partner climaxes before you do, turn over and fall asleep, leaving you hot and hard? Who could resist such great and satisfying sex?

Foreplay, also known as the "Game Before The Game". Using everything you have. Your fingers, your toes, your mouth, your hair... In some cases even your warm breath can be part of the fun.

Through my experience, the best way to start with a foreplay is by giving a massage. You can consider talking dirty during the massage. You might want to describe how she is working late lonely in her workplace, how you appear naked by her side, how you going to massage her and how you going to bend her over the photocopying machine or her boss's work desk. Detailed descriptions would work better than just "telling a story".

With your partner lying down with her back facing you, you can start with the shoulders. Give her a good massage to relax her muscles. In the midst of the massage, let your fingers "walk' lightly around her body especially those sensitive areas. Then go back to the strong massage again. Then, use your warm mouth to suck and bite and tease their erogenous zones and lick them behind the ears or bite the top of their shoulders - literally devour them with your mouth. You might also want to prepare a cup of warm water to gurgle before doing this.

There are certain zones on her body that are more stimulating than others. After the massage, use soft smooth strokes to touch and stimulate your partner. Roll your finger tips across their nipples and behind their ears as you kiss them and tease them with your tongue. Use your legs and run it up and down her thighs. When your partner gets impatient and aggressive during the foreplay it means you are doing something right.

Foreplay is as much of an art form as it is a "necessity". Foreplay can include, toys, tools, ties and even food. For beginners, I would recommend toys. Don't be shy. Ask the sales person which toys are their best sellers and good for beginners. You wouldn't want to buy something too strong or huge for a start.

The rules of foreplay are standard worldwide and there is only one: Take care of your partner first. Good foreplay is when one guy/girl gets great pleasure out of pleasing his/her lover. As the saying goes: Ladies first. Have a great sex.

Ways To Have Sex On The First Date

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It is not every guy's dream to get laid or have sex on the first date. Amazing huh? Some guys would prefer to have a great time before getting intimate. However, no guy would turn down sex on the first date for sure.

Play your cards right and anything might happen. Sex on the first date in not totally unheard of but you just don't hear it often.

If you know of a girl who has the hots for you since ancient times, give her a call. Call her in the afternoon and tell her that you would like to spend time with her that very night. If she had wanted you for a very long time, a dinner with her and you can proceed to bed... With her!

If you know that your ex-girlfriend would not mind going out with you again, call her up and remind her that you both are still friends. Take her to where you two first had a date and then back to your place for a night cap.

If you have a friend or ex who has referred you or tried to set you up then you know that you are in for it. Make full use of those referrals. You never know how you both could end up in bed.

Dating will be expensive and tiring, if you don't plan properly. However, if you had spent the money and you are happy with it, it would be worth it. Wouldn't it?

Seducing Your Ex Girlfriend's Friend

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It is possible but you have to be very careful. Make sure you take it a step at a time while seducing your ex-girlfriend's friend. If you are in a hurry, you may spoil the relationship with all the friends she has.

You must make sure that you pick a friend who was/is competitive to your ex-girlfriend. Women are competitive creatures. Competition increases your chances of getting the girl based on their obsession of outdoing each other.

Befriend her

Invite your target to a function, gathering, party. This shows her that you see her as another friend in the circle, establishing that you could possibly invite her in the future to other functions.

Date her out to two or three of these situations. If she has a good time, she will feel safe around you and that will open her up to something more intimate. When a girl feels safe and charmed, you on your way in!

Attention

Find opportunities to give your attention to her, and I mean special attention. Remember what she mentioned that she likes. Getting her that something will impress her. Better still, show up at her workplace with it.

If at any time she mentioned something like, "You used to date my friend; I feel not right if we should be together." You simply respond with, "I am not dating you but to seducing you." You will set the precedent immediately that she has an opportunity to act on her sexual feelings.

Finally

Stay focused on you two and if things heat, go to her place/hotel if possible. Don't bring her to your place and remind her that her friend (your ex-girlfriend) was there several months ago.

The Health Benefits of Sex by: Susie Michelle Cortright

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Quick quiz: Would you rather run 75 miles or have sex three times per week for a year?

Research shows that both activities burn the same number of calories. (7,500, to be exact.)

We often think that something that feels good can’t possibly be good for us. Now it’s time to think again.

Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and triggers that nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body’s immune system.

Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., author of Superimmunity, also maintains that sex in a loving relationship helps the immune system by increasing the flow of certain chemicals in the body.

Hugh O’Neill, editor of Men’s Health magazine, recently listed some health benefits of sex, as well. Regular sex is regular exercise and has similar benefits, including improved cholesterol levels and increased circulation. Men’s Health also reported that men who have sex at least three times each week may have a decreased risk of developing prostate problems.

Sex, like exercise, releases endorphins. Endorphins contribute to the runner’s high and diminishes pain levels.

An active sex life may help us live longer, too. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at Scotland’s Royal Edinburgh Hospital, conducted a study of 3,500 people ranging in age from 18 to 102. Weeks concluded that sex actually slows the aging process.

Sexual therapists remind us that frequent sex is a form of exercise. And feeling secure in a relationship leads to feeling happier, which could lead to greater health--and a younger look.
In fact, these studies indicate that intimacy plays a key role in the health benefits of sex. A promiscuous sexual relationship may actually produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.

In spite of all these health benefits and the sheer pleasure of the act, Americans may still need a boost. At least one-third of American couples report "inhibited sexual desire," according to The Masters and Johnson Institute.

Sex therapists say sex acts on the principal of "use it or lose it." So, for your heart, mind, and soul, the best advice may be to "Just do it!"

- About The Author
Susie Michelle Cortright is the author of several books for women, including Rekindling Your Romance After Kids, and founder of the award-winning Momscape.com, a website designed to help busy women find balance. Visit http://www.momscape.com today and get Susie's *free* courses-by-email "6 Days to Less Stress" and "Rekindling Your Romance After Kids."

Sex is a Serious Thing! by: Amy Guven

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Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about men's early ejaculations and women's orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: It's normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldn't have an orgasm! But if you really think for a few seconds, surprisingly, you won't see any relation between these two events. Because, a man if he is not a boor, will prepare his woman to reach her orgasm before his ejaculation.

The other highly popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ? What is the normal size? How thick and long can be the biggest? How small is acceptable for lovemaking?

Every man's genital is different as his finger print and the role of the penis size in a happy and successful sexual relationship is not such important. At least you don't have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger! Even with a huge organ a man's chance is very limited to make her achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover and doesn't know proper sex techniques, most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasure.

Even a man who has a miniscule dick may be a perfect lover! The only way is to learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner, instead of being paranoiacly distressed. This is normal and this is your body, love it and try to use it more creatively and with more love. Kiss and caress every part of your partner's body for long time, arouse her enough, and go down and give her a nice oral love... until she reaches the climax.

Believe me, every woman loves and prefers such a talented lover in the place of a big dick entering a few times into your vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened! Naturally!

Having a small organ is not a guilt, a crime, if he knows his body and has developed many better solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover!

In regard to early ejaculations... This, also, is not a crime and if the man has not an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off doesn't make any difference in their sex life! Which may be true!

Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two genders. Men, by their nature, want to thrust into a hole when aroused and squirt in, that's all! But woman needs a prior preparation, a foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.
One woman likes this position, another may choose that position, many women request clitoris stimulation besides men's thrusting... Many fatiguing services asked from men! And furthermore, if a serious and passionate relationship doesn't exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed. Is a natural error, an innate lack of harmony exists between men and women?

Let see some different type of early comers:

Type A: The worst. He doesn't even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesn't care anything else! For the woman's orgasm? What is that? He hasn't heard anything about woman's orgasm!

Type B: He knows about woman's orgasm but act like he doesn't know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference, if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like "ah" he will suppose she reached an orgasm but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!

Type C: He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is shamed or can't find the time to go! As a foreplay he kiss and caress her a little but he can't wait and comes off. Sometimes he can't even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad but life goes on!

Type D: He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partner's orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a great oral love and bring her to an orgasm. Then start to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are relaxed and happy!

That means, if a man is understanding and clever the early ejaculation is not an important obstacle on the way of a happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder and get a treatment which is totally normal, but meantime he is kind and not selfish, gives her ultimate pleasures to reach her orgasm.

An absolutely good sex for a woman is a normal dick size, a foreplay at length, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures... not insisting on what he wants, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.

Please remember that if she has reached to one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position for her, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientations.

Finally, what is the woman's responsibility in creating a harmonious sexual relationship? Women must talk and describe what they want clearly. Of course talking to the boors will not produce a positive result but intelligent men may understand your needs. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and sleep... talk to your lovers and kindly explain your desires, if not you will lose your sexual desires and even you won't be able to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!

- About The Author
Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amy's Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amy's Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.

Herbal Sex Supplements by: Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.

2006-11-03T23:54:00.000+08:00

There are numerous herbal supplements on the market today that increase sexual performance and satisfaction. How is one to choose which of these products is the right one to try? Trying to sort through the various descriptions can be time-consuming and frustrating. Therefore, when delving into the world of herbal sex supplements, it is important to know basic information concerning herbal remedies.

When looking for an herbal remedy, it is important to find one that states it falls under the category of herbal Se supplements. The Se stands for standardized extract, meaning the ingredients are carefully measured and formulated so that each tablet or capsule contains the exact same portion of ingredients. Some herbal supplements do not offer this imperative procedure; therefore, the doses will vary, even in the same bottle.

In order to gain such goals as penis enlargement, increased sperm count, or heightened sexual desire, the incorporation of herbal Se supplements is the key. With anything else, results will vary due to the variance in the dosages taken daily. When dosages vary, consistent results are much more difficult, if not impossible, to achieve.

A prime example of herbal Se supplements can be found by researching supplements such as the MacaEnhancer or Vig-Rx. There are numerous herbal Se supplements available, and finding which one is right for your needs is simply a matter of research. Maca root has become in an increasingly popular herbal sex supplement. When combined with amino acids, the mixture will result in not only enhanced sex, but also increased semen production. When shopping for herbal sex supplements, look for ones that contain those two key ingredients and try to find one that offers vitamins as well.

Getting the right ingredients from a supplement that utilizes a standardized extract procedure will ensure that you’re using a quality product, leading to the best results. When researching for the right supplement to use, the very first thing to look for is if the supplements being studied are herbal Se supplements. If not, then do not waste any time or money on them. There are simply too many other products available that are proven to work without wasting effort on those supplements that are made with less than quality standards.

- About The Author
Dr. Michael Rodriguez is an innovator who has spent the past decade researching male sexual health.
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Longer Sex by: Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.

2006-11-03T23:52:00.000+08:00

Many of us longingly dream of having longer sexual encounters that will leave us breathless. We see vivid and tempting displays of such pursuits on the television and in movies, read enticing depictions in books, and even hear others speak of long and enjoyable sexual experiences that blew their minds. Why then, aren’t you able to enjoy longer and greater sex?

You can. In fact, many individuals are enjoying much longer sex. Do these lucky individuals have a magic potion? They may have a potion, but it’s not magic and it likely comes in the form of an herbal supplement. By simply trying the available products on the market that are specifically designed to increase male enhancement, millions are enjoying better, longer sex.

While in the past, problems concerning erection quality were a taboo subject that was rarely, if ever, talked about; that is no longer the case in the modern day. More and more men are becoming open to discussing this personal dilemma and are actively and aggressively seeking answers that will allow them to enjoy longer sex and more intense sexual encounters. The result of this increasing desire for a solution has resulted in the incorporation of intensive research of the mysteries of penile erections. Because of the increase in research, products have been developed that have been proven to enhance erection quality and provide millions with longer sex.

There are a number of supplements available on the market that will enable men to increase the size of their erections and the duration of their sexual activities. However, a few of these products go one step further by going beyond the simple goal of increasing one’s erection size. There are actually supplements that not only enable a man to enjoy a much harder erection, but also allow the body to develop more stamina, increased desire, and even reduce the stress and anxiety one can feel when they are concerned about their sexual performance. By combining all of these factors, one can experience a much longer and an extremely intense sexual session.

Unlike Viagra, many of these supplements are natural supplements that can be purchased over the counter. Because of this, men can avoid the embarrassment of discussing the problem with their family doctor as they can order the supplements without a prescription. There are numerous alternatives available that will promote longer sex and as a result, an improved sex life. Men no longer have to dream about having longer sex; many are now experiencing it thanks to the great strides these supplements have made.

Enhance Sex Drive - Know About Natural Herbs by: AyurvedicCure.com

2006-11-03T23:49:00.000+08:00

Did you know that certain food that you eat evaluate your passion and makes your love life more pleasurable and hot! If your love life has turned sour, then you can sweeten things up with delicious mood foods guaranteed to stir your passions and bring back charm in your life.

Ginger: Ginger has long been considered a spicy treat for lovers. It is said to sharpen the mind so one can focus all their attention toward the act of love making!

Garlic: It enhances sex drive to such enormous level that love making turns out to be a real passion. So have garlic in your diet regularly.

Chocolate: Known as the "Love Chemical" . It contains phenethylamine that is released in the brain when positive emotions such as falling in love are expressed.

Ashwagandha: Potent stress calmer, calms down anxiety. Rasayan gives energy.

Hot N' Spicy: The extra hot and spicy foods heat up the desires and put them in a romantic mood. Try getting ready for some red-hot romance with red- hot chillies and hot and spicy curries.

Love Potion: Add ginseng, rose petals, cinnamon sticks to your favourite beverage. Let it steep for 1-2 weeks and strain well. Wine or juice added to it wiill bring your partner in the mood for love.

Lifestyle: Eliminate stress as much as possible from your life Meditation is very helpful to help relax the mind and enhance the normal functions. Change your diet: At first a diet that lowers toxins is adviced for several weeks, followed by a low protein diet according to your constitution.

This should be accompanied with Kohinoor Gold Capsules with warm milk Ayurveda gives three guidelines:

Vata people have the least stamina, so should ejaculate the least Pitta people are average in stamina Kapha people have the greatest capacity for ejaculation

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Using Sex Addictively by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

2006-11-03T23:47:00.000+08:00

Robert consulted with me because his wife, Andrea, was no longer interested in having sex with him. “Andrea says she feels objectified when we make love, and I don’t know what that means,” he stated. “I love her and I don’t think I see her as an object.”

“Well, when you want to make love to her, why are you wanting to make love? What is motivating you?” I asked.

As we explored this question, it became apparent that Robert’s desire for Andrea was generally motivated, not only by his physical need for sex, but also by his need to be validated by her and to relieve his stress. No time in his discussion with me did he say he wanted to make love to her as an expression of his love for her. At no time did he state that there were many ways he enjoyed sharing his love with her, such as time together, sharing fun, affection, cuddling. His focus in being with Andrea was in having sex with her, and if she didn’t want to, he was generally angry or withdrawn. While he professed that he was expressing his love when I asked him about it, his behavior was anything but loving.

“So, if she doesn’t feel turned on to you, and would rather cuddle or spend time together in some other way, that’s not okay with you? You don’t stay loving with her unless she does what you want?”

“Yeah, I guess so. I guess that’s what I do.”

Robert was quite distressed to learn that this is why Andrea felt objectified, and also to learn that he was using sex addictively. Anything we use outside ourselves to relieve stress, validate ourselves and fill ourselves up can become an addiction. In Robert’s case, he was using sex to avoid dealing with his stress and low self-esteem. He was using Andrea and sex as a Band-Aid to temporarily alleviate anxiety. And, he confessed, he went further with his addiction. He would masturbate to pornography and attend expensive strip clubs in his efforts avoid responsibility for his own feelings and needs. Underneath his addictive behavior, Robert felt deeply insecure and afraid much of the time. Rather than dealing with his fears and insecurities, he was using sex, just as someone else might use food, drugs or alcohol.

As long as Robert was coming to her needy rather than loving, there was nothing for Andrea to feel turned on to. Andrea wanted their sex to be an expression of their love for each other, not a way to relieve Robert’s anxiety or fill his emptiness, and had reached the place in her own growth where she was no longer willing to be used by him.

Fortunately, Robert was motivated to do the inner work necessary to heal his sexual addiction. Through his work with the Inner Bonding process that I teach, Robert was able to establish, for the first time in his life, a connection with a spiritual source of love and guidance. Through learning to work with his spiritual guidance, he was able to begin to heal the limiting beliefs he had absorbed as he was growing up about his adequacy and worth. As he began to discover the beauty within him - his gentleness, integrity, creativity, and ability to care about others - he began to feel much better about himself. He learned to speak up for himself in work and social situations, as well as with Andrea. As he learned be loving with himself, the emptiness within him that led to his neediness gradually diminished. The more he was loving with himself, the more powerful he felt, and the more he was able to express his love to Andrea. When the day came that Andrea actually felt his love rather than his neediness and emptiness, her sexual feelings for Robert returned.

Robert’s desire for pornography and strip clubs gradually vanished as he learned to take full responsibility for his own feelings and needs. He still loves to make love with Andrea, but he no longer gets angry and withdrawn if she is not turned on. He no longer needs her to take away his anxiety or validate his adequacy. He is no longer using sex addictively.

- About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.

Overweight? - 5 Tips To Enhance Your Sex Drive by: JLee Davis

2006-11-03T23:42:00.000+08:00

You could try one of the many sexual enhancement drugs available today. You could sign up for very expensive workshops and retreats. You could even strip down and pole dance for your partner.

My guess is that these things just aren't your style. I believe that you're seeking natural and balanced healing for your sexdrive and your overweight body.

You're tired, your energy is low and you aren't feeling quite like you think you should. You don't have unrealistic expectations. You do have some dreams you've hung onto despite your physical size. You've clung to them, knowing that some day those dreams would take you to a place inside you where you were finally ready to take control.

Welcome to your life. A life that will continue to grow more healthy, from here on. Once you embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, you can never plead ignorance again.

You can never say..."I didn't know".

Your sex drive does not need to take a complete dive while you're in the process of losing weight. That extra weight does not have to be like carrying heavy sacks of spuds around. It doesn't have to tire you out.

Simple things you can do to help energize you and lighten the load include the following suggestions.

You can make sure your daily food intake contains the highest possible raw content you can achieve up to about 80%. For now, to go much higher is a path you can move into. Keep the raw fruits and veggies separate and your energy level will steadily climb. Your body WILL respond to what you feed it. It has no choice, chemically speaking.

Step in place for ten minutes. Hardly a spit in the ocean of time in your day. Get up and do this for yourself. I promise your Self will love you for it. Walk around the block or walk in place. Preferably outside and breathing with a full inhale/exhale. The more you move, the more you’ll be able to move both in your live and in your love life. You don’t want your partner to have to do all the work do you? Keep your eye on the prize. It’s your dream. You CAN make it happen!

Make the choice to work at your sex life. Most especially if you and your partner have been together a long time. Sometimes things just need sprucing up. If you feel too overweight to feel sexy, try splitting a bottle of pleasant red wine. Put on something nice and enhance the mood of your room. Work at it. Overweight, underweight or just perfect, people have to make the effort to keep the sexual tension alive.

Tend to your physical appearance. Sometimes in our daily lives, we forget to take a moment to add the little touches that we used to do daily. Trim those stray hairs or apply that bit of lipstick. Small things can enhance your appearance and the way you walk, adding confidence to your style. When we take care of ourselves, we stand taller and feel better about ourselves.

Don’t let life get in the way of preserving the passion and fire you and your partner once had. Don’t let the pounds you’re in the process of losing, discourage you from feeling just as sexy as you did. You’ll get there again and when you do, you’ll still have your mate. The one you fell in love with. Don’t let anything get in the way. Schedule dates with your mate and make the effort.
We have all sorts of obstacles in life and each one can seem insurmountable at the time. Later, we can see each in perspective and sometimes even with humor. Don’t let tomorrow’s comic relief get you down today. Do something about your sex life and the drive will take care of itself.

- About The Author
JLee Davis has been writing since high school. Through marriage and kids, ill-health and regaining it, she's kept on writing. After over thirty years, she's finding that the best things in life really are there for the taking. Sharing her motivation is one way she has of "paying it forward".
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Boost You Sex Life The Natural Way! by: Richard Moore

2006-11-03T23:36:00.000+08:00

A look at some natural aphrodisiacs.

There are many well-known ways to boost a sagging libido, from oysters to zinc to Viagra. But what about some holistic alternatives?

First of all, with age our libidos go south -- estrogen, progesterone and especially testosterone in men and women," Cass said.

To combat a low sex drive, Cass first recommends eating right and getting enough fatty acids in your diet. "Fish oil particularly or flax oil because that's a precursor to the sex hormones."

There are a lot of herbs that actually enhance sexuality, Cass said. Here are a few:

Sex-Boosting Herbs

Chrysanthemum
Cistanches
Cordyceps
Epimedium (a mushroom)
Jujube

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So is there any concern that you can take too much or that these herbs can have side effects?

"It's always good to talk to your doctor when you're on medication and taking an herb," Cass said.

Some herbs, Cass noted, actually act on the hormones themselves while others work on the circulatory system. The good news is that instead of side-effects, some of the herbs have side-benefits.

"A lot of these actually lower your blood pressure," she said. "So if you tend to have hypertension this will actually bring your blood pressure down in a much more natural way."
As for fragrance and aromatherapies, each individual has his or her own individual chemistry and things that they will prefer. But the following standards, Cass said, traditionally affect the emotional system, going "right into our emotional body and into our sensuality...and turn us on."
Stimulating Scents
Ylang-Ylang
Rose
Patchouli
Sandalwood
Jasmine
Vanilla
Musk
Cinnamon
Coriander

As far as food goes, chocolate, particularly for women, is a sensuality enhancer, Cass said. Dark chocolate is probably better because you get more of the actual chocolate and less of the sugar, fat and other things.

Berries, bananas, peaches and other fruits are more about how you eat them rather then their composition, she said.

"Think of feeding each other berries, feeding each other a ripe peach or apricot," she said.

"There's something very sensual about that. It's part of the foreplay."

- About The Author
Richard Moore is the Founder an President of Everything Health and Beauty! For Men and Women
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Story from a husband: When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

2006-11-02T10:09:00.000+08:00

This is a very touching article... read it if you have the time.

Tiny details which we did will make a difference in our life. To my married and unmarried friends:

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.

Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me.

I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious.

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

When attracting Sexy Women, Remember... Time And Circumstance Change Everything by: John Alanis

2006-11-01T13:44:00.000+08:00

Many guys are just too intimidated and full of anxiety around sexy women to be successful at attracting women. I've even seen guys who turn women's heads walking into a room who have this issue. Let me help some of you who may have this "between the ears" handicap.

I have a good friend of mine who teaches people how to become millionaires by investing in real estate. He's bought and sold over 1,500 houses in his real estate career. The guy is a real doer, not a talker (he’s pretty good at attracting women, too)… and one of the most successful guys I know. I asked him what he considered to be the most important key to being a successful Real Estate investor. He looked me right in the eye and said this: "Time and circumstance change everything." How does this apply to attracting desirable and sexy women?

See, in Real Estate investing you have to deal with a "motivated seller" so you can get the house at the right price and make a nice profit when you "cash out." You have to deal with those who need to sell, not want to sell. What my friend told me was this: some of the best deals he ever put together came from dealing with people who told him no month after month after month… and then they finally said yes (much like sexy women will). What happened? Time and circumstance changed. They went from wanting to sell, to needing to sell, and when they needed to sell he was still there. If he'd been like most real estate investors and forgotten about the deal as soon as he heard "no" he would never have been as successful as he is today. The same thing applies to attracting women.

Here's the truth about how people, including sexy women, think: No decision, however firm in the moment, is ever final. Ever. Decisions are always being made, and re-made based on time and circumstance. An unmotivated seller today may be very motivated tomorrow.

The same thing applies when it comes to attracting women. I hear guy after guy say, "She rejected me, I have no chance with sexy women like her." Or, "She left me for another guy. She's gone forever." All that's malarkey… just send all those women over to the King and eventually I'll allow them to spend time with me, no matter what they say in the beginning.

Why? Because time and circumstance change everything, whether you’re selling real estate, or meeting intimidating, sexy women. A few years ago I had a truly amazing once in a lifetime experience with a woman, Christine R. (she's one of my female testimonials at www.womenapproachyou.com/enter.htm) from Seattle. She saw an article about me, contacted me and we wound up meeting in Reno, sharing an experience that is really indescribable. It felt like we lived a lifetime together in three days—an amazing example of what can happen when you master the art of attracting women.

However, due to distance and other factors we both knew a long term committed relationship was out of the question, although we continued to meet as "adventure partners." But I knew she'd eventually meet a guy for a long term relationship because family was very important to her. And she did. And it was painful for me. HOWEVER… I didn't get mad or place her in the "ex's" category or the "friends category" (like many men do when “dumped” by sexy women). Nope, instead I left our relationship open to endless possibilities, although at the time she assured me she had met "the one," and that she and I would never be intimate again. (I, being the King, said it was not "the one," simply the "next one.")

But time and circumstance change everything, especially when attracting women. And I did see her again in an intimate way. And she is in my life today, in a totally different way than I ever expected-in a way where we can both be truly happy for each other no matter if the other is in a relationship or not. That never would have happened had we become "just friends" or "ex's." And it rarely happens with men who date sexy women.

What can you learn from this? No matter what a woman tells you at the time, all decisions are subject to change. I have been told three times in my life by women I cared deeply for that our time together was over. But it wasn't. If I'd reacted like the typical guy and considered these sexy women "evil bitches" who were out to get me, our "future time" never ever would have happened. But I simply gave them my genuine understanding, told them how much our time together meant, and let them know I would be in their lives in whatever capacity they needed, without judgment, without ulterior motive, without ever saying, "I told you so." And all three came back to me, and our relationships to this day are stronger than they ever were before. Why? Because I understand this when it comes to attracting women: time and circumstance change everything.

- About The Author
John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You", is author of the "Women Approach You" system at http://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is at http://www.johnalanis.com.

Why It's Up To YOU To Take "First Action" With A Sexy Woman, Fast by: John Alanis

2006-10-31T22:25:00.000+08:00

Do you want to know how to really frustrate a sexy woman who's attracted to you, even drive her away? It's a good idea to know this because most guys do it, not even aware they're doing it, and then are mystified when she doesn't want to spend time with them anymore.

Here it is:

Hold back from doing anything physical with her (touching, holding hands, or kissing) because you aren't sure if she likes you are not. This drives a sexy woman crazy because most won't initiate physical contact with a guy (although you've gotta love the rare exception), and she has to wait until he finally screws up the courage to do what she's silently begging him to do all along. For some guys this can take weeks, even months, leaving the woman they're attracted to frustrated, even pissed off.

A lot of men are afraid to initiate contact because they "aren't sure" if she likes them or not. In turn, the sexy woman begins to wonder if he's really attracted to her because he won't initiate contact. What you wind up with is two people who are really attracted to each other, but frustrated because each "isn't sure."

The solution to this is actually pretty easy, and once you do it one or two times you'll understand how much a sexy woman who is really attracted to you wants her to touch you. In fact, touch itself can create and enhance attraction.

Whenever you meet a beautiful sexy woman you're attracted to, you need to begin touching her from the very beginning in a non-threatening way that lets her know the interaction IS about attraction, and not about " platonic friends." That's the difference between a man who's "good with women" and the "nice guy." The man who's good with women instantly makes the interaction about attraction, the nice guy ("wuss") waits around wondering if she "likes him."

When I meet a beautiful sexy woman I smile my naughty boy smile, look her in the eye, and when I shake her hand, I hold onto it. When we sit down to talk I lightly touch her wrist, then if she responds positively to that I touch her shoulder when she laughs. Then I simply take her hand and hold it.

I can't remember a time when I've had a sexy woman pull away-in fact the reaction on her part is usually one of relief because she instantly knows I'm not a "nice guy" who's going to make her wait weeks before I touch her. She instantly puts me in a category of a "man who knows women," and views me through the lens of attraction.

I lead, and she follows, thankful I'm not going to frustrate her, and that I'm going to gently, yet firmly lead the attraction. I won't pressure her, and if she pulls back from an intimate touch, I pull back just a bit, then move gently forward so she can "surrender" to it, knowing she's with a strong man.

I never worry about whether or not she "likes me"-that mindset is for wusses. Instead I presume she likes me, and take the attitude that she's the one who should be concerned about whether or not I like her. She can instantly pick up on the fact I'm not at all worried if she's attracted to me or not, and that attitude is very comforting to her. She knows I won't be nervous or awkward, but instead will be confident and firm.

As long as she's engaged with me, she's interested. Even if she pushes me away, we both know it's just a test to see how I react. So, I pull away briefly, then gradually ramp back up to what we were just doing… and this time where there was pushing away, there's pulling towards, attraction where she's used to experiencing frustration with guys.

So, if there's a beautiful sexy woman who likes to spend time with you, and you wonder if she likes you or not, stop wondering and start taking action… she'll like you for sure then.

- About The Author
John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You", is author of the "Women Approach You" system at http://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is at http://www.johnalanis.com.

Rejuvenating Sex And Health Naturally by: Dr. Randy Wysong

2006-10-31T22:15:00.000+08:00

Our physical and psychological makeup is influenced by the sexual imperative far more than most of us realize or wish to admit. Entire systems of psychoanalytical therapy (e.g. Freud) are based upon the premise that we are primarily sexual creatures.

Behaviorally, there is little doubt that there are dramatic differences between the sexes. This can be seen even in the earliest of years. (This is so in spite of vigilant efforts by “rights” groups to blur distinctions and to declare sexual equality by legal fiat.) Girls with dolls and boys with trucks and guns manifest with no coaching from parents, and reflect the natural nurturing tendencies of girls versus the more aggressive and protecting inclination of boys. Physically the primary and secondary sexual characteristics are obviously different. These features, in fact, attract the opposite sex and prepare each sex for reproduction, caregiving and protection for the young.

But sex is not just about recreation or procreation. It can directly impact health. For example, the risk of breast cancer is directly linked to childbearing and nursing in women – having children and nursing them for extended periods of time decreases the number of ovulations a woman has and thus decreases the pro-cancerous estrogen surges. Other research has demonstrated that fulfilling sexual activity in women is also linked to health.

A man’s sense of strength, perception of attractiveness to women, feelings of being loved and depended upon, financial success, respect, and feeling accepted are all intricately tied to sexuality. Male sexual self-worth goes hand-in-hand with physical and mental health.

Who primarily commits violent crime in society? Is it not young men in the heyday of their testosterone surge? Sexuality and health at their peak create the potential for either great accomplishment or great harm depending upon how these energies are focused.

On the other hand, when male hormone levels start to ebb in later years, health decline parallels this downturn. Men experience loss of muscle mass, lowered energy levels, decreased immunity, increased susceptibility to a variety of degenerative diseases, decreased libido and fertility, and various degrees of impotence. Sensing this decline, men can feel hopeless, worthless and at the end of life. Such feelings further fuel the downward health spiral often resulting in an early death.

The importance of sexuality in men is evidenced by polls showing that men would sooner risk serious life-threatening side effects than forego the possibility that a new drug (e.g. Viagra™) might rejuvenate them sexually. Being sexually alive even in the very oldest of men may be as important as life itself.

Although male hormone levels decrease with age, the slope of the curve can be dramatically altered. It will not, however, be just a matter of taking a pill. Supplemental male hormones are available but their use disrupts the body’s natural balances and can cause negative feedback inhibition. When this occurs, exogenous hormones (pills) send a signal to hormone-producing tissues that hormone levels are high enough. Endogenous (from the body itself) production therefore slows. Over time this can weaken hormone-producing tissues so that the initial problem of inadequate production is compounded. This is at least part of the mechanism for the adverse effects of anabolic (male hormone-like) steroids taken by athletes and bodybuilders. Young men eager to exaggerate muscularity end up with withered and weakened testicles and other endocrine glands setting them up for serious diseases as they get older.

A better alternative is to make healthy lifestyle changes (suggested in the Optimal Health Program™ http://www.wysong.net/optimal_health_page1.shtml) combined with natural nutritional supplementation, which has been proven to provide benefit to many.

Androgenic phytonutrients from herbs (such as Tribulus terrestris, Muira puama, Avena sativa and nettle leaf), amino acids (including L-arginine) and certain foods such as melons naturally increase testosterone production without the danger of negative feedback inhibition as experienced with anabolic steroids and other hormones. Increased testosterone levels, in turn, increase libido, act as an aphrodisiac and help prevent impotence. (In fact, modern research has revealed that testosterone is the only substance capable of generating libido in both men and women.)

Recent studies suggest that these phytonutrients also affect brain chemicals such that potency and erectile capacity are improved and male reproductive system growth, function, and repair is enhanced.

Phytonutrients can also improve sexual function through inhibiting the binding of sex hormone-binding globulin to its receptor site on prostatic membranes. This provides relief to benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) sufferers who often experience painful intercourse, a certain impediment to sexuality.

Other nutrients such as zinc, vitamin B12 and vitamin C directly stimulate sperm production and motility and thus increase fertility. Modern, processed, food fraction-based dietary fare can be woefully deficient in these nutrients. Selecting good supplements and converting the diet to more natural, fresh and varied foods is the solution.

Lifestyle changes (outlined in the Optimal Health Program™ http://www.wysong.net/optimal_health_page1.shtml) – not the least of which is maintaining healthy body weight and regularly exercising – when combined with proper nutrition can rejuvenate the entire body and with that send a signal to the sexual core of our biological being that we are alive and well. Such signals stimulate a natural invigoration of sexuality, and with that mental and physical health.

- About The Author
Dr. Randy Wysong: A former veterinary clinician and surgeon, college instructor in human anatomy, physiology and the origin of life, inventor of numerous medical, surgical, nutritional, athletic and fitness products and devices, research director for the present company by his name and founder of the philanthropic Wysong Institute. http://www.wysong.net. http://www.cerealwysong.com.

Men's Sexual Health Problems by: Jane Morris

2006-10-31T22:11:00.000+08:00

Sexual difficulties are nearly undeniable, each and every man faces some kind of sexual problem at some point in his life, it might be a temporary issue or a permanent disorder. Be smart enough to tackle such petty disorders, do not let them hamper your marital or love life.

Some very familiar male sexual difficulties involve getting or keeping an erection, ejaculating too rapidly, or difficulty reaching orgasm. What is hard enough, fast enough, and time enough is best decided by the people involved, rather than by a clock or some arbitrary standard. Do consider the below mentioned vital points before taking any decision

• Problems in sustaining or keeping erection, also termed as Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation are some of the common disorder’s hampering men’s sexual health. Such problems are entirely normal; do not make it a sexual issue.

• Uneven sexual desire and dissimilar preferences in sexual style are normal and inevitable in long-term relationships. It is how you handle these that makes the difference.

• The sexual drive or the urge to make sex differs in men. Like women, lots of men know what it is like to feel pressured by their spouse's larger sexual appetite. Therefore do not over expect from your man.

• Do not let sexual difficulties get over your relationship; it is usually observed that men’s sexual disfunction creates a rift between your intimacies. When either partner has frequent dysfunction or low desire, both partners eventually retreat during sex into separate mental worlds of worry and frustration. Try to sort out the issue with mutual discussion, co-ordination and help,

Sexual dysfunctions are a common phenomenon, Sexual boredom, lack of intimacy, low desire, and passionless sex are common and inevitable developments–potentially, mid-stages in the evolution of your relationship. Underneath common sexual difficulties, the natural processes of self-development are often playing out. Dissatisfactory sex does not indicate that something is going, or has gone, wrong.

More importantly men’s sexual problem cans be easily treated through medications. Why to hesitate when you already have an option to treat yourself. Oral pills like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra can easily surpass erectile dysfunction and help you regain your sexual life.

Do not blame everything on sexual incompatibility, or the signs of aging or disease. And do not reduce current sexual problems to things from the past; it may be the natural growth processes of your relationship at work in the present. To get the sex, intimacy, desire, and passion many of us want, there is a lot of growing up to do.

- About The Author
Jane Morris is an associated editor to the website http://www.cialislife.com - The weekend pills. Cialislife is committed to provide visitors with complete information on erectile dysfunction and its solution. Your feedback & comments will be highly appreciated at morris.jane@gmail.com.

Reignite Your Sex Life by: Udo Vieth

2006-10-31T22:01:00.000+08:00

The tempo of modern living can seem to play havoc with our sexual relationships. There are always reasons to put everything else before our sexual gratification. However, the choice is yours.

Do you remember the passion and sexual excitement that got you into the relationship in the first place? That is what life and living is actually all about. Temporary diminishment of sexual desire can happen in any relationship. Illness, relocation, job loss or financial setbacks, can adversely affect our desire from time to time. External circumstances can and do affect the fire. Now a temporary break may actually be a good thing, as this can lead to renewed discovery of one another. The problem arises when the situation is prolonged. Now the lack of sexual desire or activity can actually cause distress in the relationship and lead to unhappiness in both partners and breakdowns. This needs to be addressed to avoid causing irreparable damage destroying the relationship.

Here are some simple ways to get your mojo working again.

1. Stop fighting!

Resolve any issues that may be stopping you from actually communicating and being a loving couple. Clear out the trash so to speak. Are there unresolved issues that you and your partner are avoiding? Confront these and clear them out. Lingering thoughts will lead to unhappiness and avoidance of intimacy on all levels. How do you think you will connect at a physical level, if you aren't even communicating? Clear the slate so to speak.

2. Make intimate contact a necessity.

You need to prioritize being close, just as an item on your to do list. pick up the laundry, be intimate, etc. We tend too put mundane activities ahead of our needs all too often. You need to live, not just exist. To live, you need to do certain enjoyable things. Sex is amongst thaoose, so prioritise it together with other fulfilling activities. Don't just assume it will happen, make it happen. This need not be inflexible, but let it happen more often than not. When you push sex aside your relationship will become like any other mundane existence. Watch out for this, don't let it happen. The more you have sex, the more you will want it. Let the snowball effect carry you in the right direction.

3. Are you OK?

Make sure that there aren't any physical reasons not to have sex. Male impotence, or erectile dysfunction, is very prevalent amongst highly stressed breadwinners. Attack the cause, reduce the stress, and if need be, use some of the available medication and seek medical assistance. This aspect of your health is as important as any other for the quality of your life. Women may have discomfort during intercourse for a variety of reasons. Again, seek assistance, resolve the physical issues. Make sure that there are no physical problems. Sometimes hormonal imbalances occurr, resulting in reduced drive, identify and remedy these. Modern medicine is very aware and capable of helping in these situations, there is no need for embarrassment, the issues are to widespread, for you too think that you are the only one with this type of problem. Sort it out.

4. Are you fulfilled?

A common situation causing disinterest, or even anger or resentment, is an unfulfilling sexual relationship. If both partners needs are not being met, one will always feel like a victim. This cannot enable a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. If our needs are not being met, talk to your partner. Work on the situation together. An understanding of the situation is the first step to resolving the issue. In many cases, just letting your partner know what you like is enough to make all the difference. In very few situations is it imposible to find a mutually acceptable compromise to satisfy both partners.

5. Where's the romance?

Romance is what led to sex in the first place. Setting the right mood, creating romantic surroundings, can make all the difference. Create a little love nest. This can be a very intimate place, or an intimate time. Run a bath for your partner, put up some candles, add some scented bathoil, and voila you don't know what will happen. On a more practical note, pack the kids off to grandma for the night, order in some exotic take-away, put a candle on the table, and refuse to let her do any housework. Watch the sparks fly. There are a myriad of ways to alter the mundane, and create situations tha timmediatrely up the chances of a romantic enjoyable encounter. You just need to do it.

6. Up for a dirty weekend?

A change is as good as a holiday they say. In the romance stakes, a change of scenery can work wonders. It doesn't have to be an exotic island location (although that would be nice). Get out of the rut. Get out and see something different, and it will bring about different thoughts and attitudes to your sexual perception as well.

Get wild.

Sex in an elevator, with the risk of being caught at any time, could turn on some partners to the extent.

- About The Author
Who is Udo Vieth? He is fast becoming an expert on love, relationship, romance, as well as being a qualified EFT and Biofeedback practitioner. He has a website: www.Toprelationships.com with information regarding all aspects of relationships.
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Different Approaches To Sexual Experience by: Robert Johanssen

2006-10-31T21:51:00.000+08:00

Ever notice how men talk about 'having sex' while women talk about 'making love?' That kind of hits the nail on the head when it comes to how men and women approach sex. Men are pretty direct when it comes to sex -- they are arounsed easily, usually by visual stimulation, what they see. Women are much more complex, and require a more complicated experience to become aroused and take longer.

While that sounds simple, (and it is!) if you are going to improve your sexual technique, you must keep it in mind constantly.

So lets have a look at this 'more complicated experience,' and see what we can learn.
Women enjoy sex with more of their senses, touch, smell, taste, and hearing. Notice that I did NOT say sight. Women are aroused by sight as well as the other senses, but this is secondary.
Women love things like ‘taking your time’, ‘anticipation’, and ‘foreplay’ because they make the experience richer and involve more senses.

Lets look at a few of these in more detail:

1. Hearing

Women love to hear romantic sensual things. Notice that is sensual not sexual language. Women love love to hear you describe your feelings. Men are more direct and want to hear things like, "you are so big." Women like to hear things like, "your skin is so soft."

2. Touching

Women love to be touched and stroked. Stroking, cuddling, and touching is all great stuff that arouses women. Stroke her lightly with the tips of your fingers up and down her body, avoiding sexual areas. There will be lots of time for that later! Build up tension and anticipation.

3. Smelling

This could be scented candles or inscense. Women love smelling and being smelled.

4. Tasting

Women love to be fed all kinds of wonderful things like strawberries, sweets, and wine.

5. Sight

While generally women are not turned on by sight, most women love to look into your eyes. This kind of ultra-romantic stuff is a huge turn-on for most women.

6. Kissing

Kissing is a kind of touching. Our lips have tons of nerve endings in them which is why contact with our lips feels good. Make kissing an experience instead of jumping right in with your tongue! Lightly brush her lips with yours and then pull away. Keep doing this 'brushing' contact, and you will excite the nerve ending on both of your lips. Play with your lips lightly and gently.

Remember when you were learning to drive? One of the first things you learn is - don't gun the engine while its cold! Well sex is just like that!

- About The Author
Robert Johanssen has written widely on sex, sexuality, couples, relationships and singles. Visit his website at http://www.sexual-technique.ca and learn more about sexual technique.

Kickstart Your Sex Life Today! by: Sarah Brindisi

2006-10-31T21:38:00.000+08:00

Has your sex life been a bit neglected lately? Its not like you don't care but well, it's just finding the time and energy. It seems impossible some days because there's work and cleaning and working out and grocery shopping and cooking dinner, laundry, kids, family commitments, friends, ironing! When you do get horizontal you pass out within minutes. Or you're not in the mood. Or you just can't be bothered. Soon enough a month has passed and you can't remember the last time you had sex. And when was the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck?

Or maybe you've just fallen into a rut. You have sex in the same place at roughly the same time each week and do the same things. Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn't come into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.

If this sounds like you and you want to kickstart your sex life back into well, life, then read on.

1. Be spontaneous

The element of surprise can be very seductive. Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2. Get healthy

Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3. Be affectionate

If you haven't had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove. Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway. Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine. Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.

4. Be sensual

Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day. Massage their hands, scalp, back - wherever takes your fancy (if you don't know how to massage, don't think about it, just do what feels good). Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.

5. Be encouraging when your partner does something you like

Even if you've been together a long time your partner doesn't always know what you like and even if they do it doesn't hurt to tell them once in awhile. Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6. Read your partner an erotic bedtime story

The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life. It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow. There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people's sexual fantasies.

7. Have fun

When was the last time you laughed together? Put on your favourite track and dance. Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner. Take a midnight dip.

8. Write a sexy letter

If you can't tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative. It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you've said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com for easy-to-us love templates).

9. Experiment

Learn a new technique together. Try a romantic weekend away. Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer. If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting. If you're always on top then try switching things around.

10. Focus on the now

When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing. To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head. Don't worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you're out of cereal. Leave all that stuff to later. Much later. Chances are it won't seem nearly so important once you're done.

- About The Author
Sarah Brindisi has done the hard work of ploughing through a whole pile of erotic fiction so that you can save time hunting for great erotic fiction to read aloud to your partner or enjoy on your own. For details: http://www.esensualexpress.com.

How to Have Great Sex - Nutrition and Foods That Create Passion! by: Nick A. James

2006-10-31T21:22:00.000+08:00

Is the thrill gone? Has the thrill gone out of your love life and sex. Do you just spend boring evening after boring evening together watching the prime time TV lineups. On the weekends he watches sports with the guys, she goes shopping with the gals. You eventually wake up one day thinking - "Gee my life and sex life have gotten pretty dull!"

Well it doesn't have to be that way. Would you like to put some spice back in your sex life? Well you can. This article focuses on two main aspects of foods and nutrition - one what foods and nutrients are needed to help your body function properly for sex and the other being to help your brain properly function.

The main ingredient that makes sex exciting is the brain and how it functions and how well it functions.

After all it is the brain which makes visual images exciting and interprets sensual smells and a sexy sounding voice.

And it ain't your feet, which dreams up creative fun sexual scenarios for you and your partner.

This article deals with food and nutrients for the brain as it relates to sex.

Eating Foods and Nutrition to Improve Your Sexual Pleasure

Here are some of the recommended vitamins, nutrients and foods:

B-Complex Vitamins – The B-complex vitamins B-1 (thiamin), B-2 (riboflavin) and B-3 (niacin) are all needed for a healthy sex drive.

Vitamin B-1 is found in grains, asparagus and raw nuts Vitamin B-2 is found in asparagus, bananas, broccoli and lean meats. Niacin Vitamin B-3 dilates blood vessels, creating better blood flow, and it also is important to sex hormones.

Vitamin C helps keep your various sex glands running smoothly. Antioxidants help protect the sexual organs and the prostate gland from free radicals.

Vitamin E aids sex hormone production and improves circulation and is found in whole grains, fruits and vegetables. Zinc is needed to produce testosterone, the male sex hormone and is contained in oysters, pumpkin and sunflower seeds, spinach and garlic.

Other valuable nutrients are:

Biotin -boosts normal health of male sex glands. Folic Acid - maintains sex organ health.

Selenium - increases male potency and sex drive.

What We Eat Can Greatly Affect Our Sex Lives – Think About This!

Have you ever noticed that when you or your spouse are tired you are rarely in the mood for sex. This seems to be especially true of women. When they are tired the answer is almost always NO! And these days with many women having to work outside the home plus juggle family activities and housework it is no wonder by the time bed rolls around she is ready to roll over and go to sleep.

Yet have you ever noticed when both spouses are full of energy it almost always leads to sex and the more energized the better the sex.

Knowing this there are things you can do everyday to provide your body and brain more energy for things you enjoy doing - like having sex. Often his buddies may make fun of the guy who helps his wife with the housework, but I bet he’s getting more then these other guys.

Aphrodisiacs and Love Foods

Consider the awesome power of the mind. Have you heard of placebos, I know you have. The work often times because people believe they will. Some aphrodisiacs work simply because you believe they will. Your brain is in effect your greatest sex organ. If the brain thinks some food turns you into a sex machine, it will. So if you believe buffalo chips will fire up your sex drive, chances are they will.

Oysters are a well-known aphrodisiac. Oysters are packed with zinc, so if you are zinc deficient, oysters may help you feel sexy.

Serotonin is a chemical the brain produces that can boost your sexual desire. Stress lowers the levels of serotonin. Some studies have shown low levels of serotonin are linked to poor ejaculation and low sperm count. A combination of foods containing the amino acid tryptophan and certain carbohydrates can reduce stress and increase levels of serotonin. For example 4 - 6 ounces of fish, poultry or lean beef with bread or pasta.

Androsterone, a potent male hormone, is thought to attract females, and is found in celery.

Researchers speculate that when you eat celery, you can release the androsterone through perspiration after digestion. Women can’t typically smell this, but some things are sensed subconsciously and women can be attracted to this.

Also the smell of pumpkin pie can increase blood flow to the penis according to a study.

With all this focus on foods and nutrition remember that the most important attribute is to pay attention to your partner. This can be the most powerful tool for putting your partner in the mood for great sex.

- About The Author
Nick A. James offers informative tips and information on nutrition, health and working from home. His many years of Internet Marketing expertise puts him in unique postion to help others starting a home business (http://www.health-goji-juice.com/home-business.html). For free newsletter, free reports and amazing info contact him at: http://www.health-goji-juice.com.

9 Irresistible Flirting Tips – How To Sizzle and Dazzle the Opposite Sex by: Joshua Goh

2006-10-31T18:35:00.000+08:00

You don't have to be a movie star look-alike to sizzle and dazzle the opposite sex. All you need is a genuine sweet looking smile plus a few irresistible flirting tips.

1. For women, we preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we are attracted to someone – by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick, or straightening a tie. Combine your grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze. You can also toss your hair to one side – a combination 1-2 punch of preening and a flash of neck.

2. A genuine, friendly smile is you’re most powerful. Behavior experts agree that a smile makes you more attractive and approachable. Guys, if a woman lock eyes and smiles with you three or more times in an evening, you have been given an unmistakably clear signal that she's interested. Make your move, if you don't, somebody else will.

3. Gaze the eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, smile and then drop your fix. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Your target needs to know you are flirting with him; making eye contact is a universal signal of openness.

4. One of the more successful flirting techniques a woman can employ is to expose her neck. A head tilt, the classic hair flip, or the over-the-shoulder glance attracts men’s attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because it's sexy and sends a signal to your target that they are worth a second look.

5. Members of both sexes are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Red also increases a man's heart rate. How to capitalize on it? Wearing a red lipstick gives women’s lips not only a youthful color but also a more obvious smile and whiter teeth. Using a super-shiny lip gloss makes your lips look moist and kissable. Men or women should lick their lips subtly (you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick) or bite the lower lip – both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.

6. Men should stand tall with the shoulders pulled back and squared; women are biologically attracted to more dominant men. Feel free to take up some space.

7. For women, crossing and uncrossing their legs is a surefire flirting technique, especially if
you're wearing high heels. A woman crossing her legs appears seductive to men and it makes them desire to see more. Slipping the heel out of your shoe and dangling it on your toes is another trick. The arch of a foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves, and makes a man's heart race.

8. Once you and your flirting target start talking, the next step is to intensify the attraction. How? Smile and maintain eye contact, focus all of your attention on what they say. No one is more attractive than someone who gives you an undivided attention. Employ the nod and head tilt techniques. Smiling and laughing are crucial at this point – it the quickly puts the other person at ease. Making low-level contact by brushing the shoulder or elbow is another effective flirting technique.

9. People mirror each other’s body language – gestures, voice volume, posture, etc when they are attracted. Very subtly mirror your flirting target's behavior – if she leans forward, lean forward; if he scratches his head, scratch your head. When you mirror someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel, think and believe as though the two of you are connected.

- About The Author
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert, prolific writer and avid internet marketer. Currently runs Cupidwave.com, which is blazingly becoming one of the highly sought-after online dating review site. He is also passionate about human peak performance, golf, fitness and travelling. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and litle tips & tricks, please visit http://www.cupidwave.com.

Some Simple Tantric Yoga Exercises to Improve the General Health and Sexual Abilities by: Knut Holt

2006-10-31T18:30:00.000+08:00

Here are some exercises for men and women for the pelvic region and for the breathing apparatus - two body zones of great importance for the general health, but that are generally disregarded in standard training regimes.

A healthy pelvic area is of great importance for the general well-being. The same is true about a healthy respiratory tract and breathing apparatus.

Here are presented three poses and three breathing exercises that have the following effects when done together in a series:

-They stimulate the physiological functions of the genital and anal area.

-They correct muscle weakness and anatomical problems of the anal and genital region.

-They increase the sexual drive and abilities.

-They produce a stimulating response that spreads upwards along the spine and revitalizes the whole body.

-They stimulate the physiological functions of the respiratory tract and help against infections in the airways.

-The exercises are very good to start each day with, or to do before going to bed in the night.

POSE 1

Stand on your hands and knees upon the floor.

Kneel backward so that your buttocks go backward and down towards your feet and stretch your arms foreword.

Breathe out and then take a deep breathe in, filling your lungs totally with air. Hold your breath with the air inside.

Squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting. Relax your anal muscles completely again.

Repeat the squeezing and relaxing 3-5 times, but not so long that you go out of oxygen in your body.

Empty your lungs. Rise up on your hands and knees again. Relax a while in this position and then you can repeat the exercise if you wish.

POSE 2

Lie on your back upon a carpet on the floor with your arms along your sides and relax.

Breathe out.

Then breathe inn deeply while relaxing all the muscles you do not need for the breathing.

Then breathe out. When breathing out, squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting.

After having breathed out, relax your anal muscles again.

Repeat the breathing in and breathing out while squeezing 3-8 times, but not some much that you get exhausted.

Then relax again.

POSE 3

Lie on your back upon a carpet on the floor.

Breathe out completely.

Swing your arms in an arch over your head and down to the floor over your head so that your whole body is stretched from top to toe. When swinging your arms, take a deep breath filling your lungs totally with air.

Hold your breath with the air inside.

Squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting. Relax your anal muscles completely again.

Repeat the squeezing and relaxing 3-5 times.

Swing your arms back at the same time as you empty your lungs. Relax some while and then you can repeat the exercise if you wish.

BREATHING EXERCISE 1

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and the back straight.

Empty your lungs completely.

Breath in counting to 4. When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other:

Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles. And then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

Hold your breath counting to 16.

Then breath out counting to 8. When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders.

BREATHING EXERCISE 2

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and your back straight. Take 10 rapid deep breathes in and out after another, but not so rapid that you get strained or breath incompletely.

When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles.

And then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders.

After the last in-breath , hold your breath with your lungs filled counting to 10.

Then breath out.

BREATHING EXERCISE 3

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and your back straight.

Empty your lungs completely.

Close your left nostril with the fingers of one of your hands. Breath in through your right nostril counting to 4.

When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles and then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

Hold your breath counting to 16.

Then close your right nostril with your fingers.

Then breath out through your left nostril counting to 8.

When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders. When you have breathed out, repeat the exercise, but this time begin by closing your right nostril first.

RELAXING AT THE END OF THE SERIES

When the series is done, then lie down upon a carpet on the floor and relax for 2-5 minutes. This relaxation will increase the effects of the exercises and make you recover if the exercises have made you tired.

Concentrate upon relaxing your legs first, then your lover body, then your upper body, then your arms and shoulders, and at last your head and face. When the whole body is relaxed, try not to think about anything, and relax your whole body even further. Then lie some time in this relaxed state without thinking about anything.

- About The Author
Knut Holt is an internet consultant and marketer focusing on health items. TO FIND natural medicines against common diseases, for example: Over-weight, acne, eczema, hypothyroidism, fatigue, depression, hemorrhoids, joint pain, hypertension, high cholesterol, circulatory problems, digestive ailments, allergies, menstrual problems, respiratory diseases and more, PLEASE VISIT:---- http://www.abicana.com

How Healthy Sex Prevents Illness by: Ruby Boyd

2006-10-31T18:27:00.000+08:00

There are many positive correlations between love, sex and health. Being so, it has produced many questions.....

Have you wondered if an active sex life can truly alleviate pain?

Do sexually active people have fewer colds and bouts of flu?

Is it true that married people live longer than single or divorced people?

Can an active sex life help prevent disease and illnesses by strengthening our immune system?

I have these answers and more, read on....

An active sex life is both stimulating and rejuvenating to the glandular system. When we make love the pituitary gland, the thyroid gland, the adrenal glands, the prostate and testes in men, and the ovaries in women are thoroughly exercised. The net result is that people in love look and feel better about themselves.

Activation of the sex center in the brain has health effects on other brain centers. Every cell in the body gets this message and is strengthened by it.

An active sex life strengthens our immune system. Scientists have compared the nerve endings of happy, loving and sexually-fulfilled people with unhappy and sexually-unfulfilled people. Apparently, large numbers of immune-system cells were gathered near the nerve endings in the "happy" people. A similar microscopic exam of "unhappy" and depressed persons showed no such gathering of immune- system cells.

Scientists theorized that the nerve endings in the "happy" group were releasing neurotransmitters. These are chemicals, like adrenalin and acetylcholine, that facilitate the transmission of nerve messages.

Scientists concluded that these neurotransmitters could attract, feed, and strengthen the various immune-system cells. During sex, the heart beats twice as fast, pumping blood to the pelvis, breasts, nipples, and surface of the skin, helping get rid of toxins and bringing in nutrients.

We also breath twice as fast, bringing in more oxygen. Muscles are tensed and relaxed, alternatively. Of course, not much good is realized by those who rush through lovemaking in ten minutes or less. But for those who spend a leisurely hour or two, the benefits can be considerable.

You, and you alone can determine the success or failure of your sex and love life; your physical, mental and spiritual health; and almost every other aspect of your life.

- About The Author
Ruby Boyd's website offers information how alternative medicine, diet-nutrition prevents cancer and disease.
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Antioxidants Increase Sexual Pleasure by: Chris Robertson

2006-10-31T18:23:00.000+08:00

We often read or hear news reports about antioxidants and how they can improve our health, yet we rarely hear about the role they play in the pleasure we obtain from sex and intimacy.

To understand antioxidants and the ways they can enhance genital health, we first need to understand the role that free radicals play in damaging our cells. In essence, free radicals are the toxic byproducts of our metabolism. Free radical production can increase as a result of the foods we eat (as is the case with charbroiled meat) or the air we breathe (as is the case with second hand smoke).

Using several enzyme-based systems, our body does its best to combat free radicals. When our body's defenses fail, though, free radicals cause individual cells to become damaged or die. If left unchecked, free radicals cause tissue damage, premature aging, and loss of cellular function. In other words, our cells become oxidized, much in the same way that rust forms on iron when it is exposed to air and water.

Antioxidants help to combat free radical damage by shoring up the body's enzyme-based systems. Vitamins C and E are popular antioxidants, as are the polyphenols found in plants and in certain foods and beverages, such as cocoa, red wine, green tea, and ginseng.

Antioxidants can also improve sexual pleasure and intimacy. Women who are perimenopausal, menopausal, or post-menopausal - along with women who use oral contraceptives - can experience genital oxidative stress, which can result in vaginal dryness and a lack of sexual desire. In a sense, antioxidants are an aphrodisiac, in that they preserve the nitric oxide needed to dilate blood vessels in genital tissues, which in turn causes sexual arousal.

Eating or drinking foods and beverages with antioxidant properties is sure to improve your
overall feeling of well-being, but antioxidants delivered in the form of a lubricant to sensitive genital skin can have a positive impact on sexual pleasure and intimacy. When organic antioxidants penetrate the skin, they energize nerve endings.

Genital skin care should be an ongoing priority. When looking for an antioxidant to promote genital health, it is important to find one that is water-free and non-oily. Instead, it should be polymer-based and have a non-sticky feeling. In addition, it should be a product that can be used on a daily basis.

- About The Author
Chris Robertson is a published author of Majon International. Majon International is one of the worlds MOST popular internet marketing and internet advertising companies on the web. Visit their main business resource web site at: http://www.majon.com
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The Incredible Power of Pheromones - Nature’s Sexual Secret Weapon by: Terri Lewis

2006-10-31T18:20:00.000+08:00

Imagine being able to suddenly be more appealing to the opposite sex. The very thought of discovering a magic way of turning heads and getting attention is exciting and intriguing. Is it possible to actually affect the way the opposite gender responds to you? Yes, it is and human pheromones are nature's way of sending a subtle, but powerful message to the opposite sex. Pheromones are hormonal substances released by all human beings, and there are ways of harnessing this powerful scent for your own benefit.

In the animal kingdom, pheromones are chemicals popularly known for their ability to attract members of the same species, and most often of the opposite sex. These pheromones are actually scents that animals recognize and use to communicate with one another. This aromatic signal causes sexual stimulation and will lead an animal to seek out another of its kind for mating purposes. Not unlike animals, human beings are also attuned to sex pheromones, which accounts for the reason why individuals are attracted to one another. It has been proven in scientific studies that scent is a powerful sexual stimulant. Moreover, scent has the unique ability to trigger memory and motivate behaviour and mood. If you have ever found yourself inexplicably drawn to another person, sex pheromones may be just the reason.

How can our unique human pheromones be used to appeal to the opposite sex? We are always releasing these powerful and mysterious chemicals into the air, but sometimes with little or no effect. Luckily, human pheromones can be recreated and captured in a bottle. If you would like to increase your pheromone scent, you can use a scientifically engineered pheromone concentrate. The most effective manufactured pheromones come in 99.99% pure oils with both Androstenone and Androstenol pheromones. These products may come as a perfume or cologne, and are also available as wipes. Many men and women have used pheromone oils and reported a significant increase in attention from members of the opposite sex. Think of bottled pheromones as sex appeal in a bottle, and they can work for you!

Appealing to the opposite sex does not have to be a mystery any longer. Human pheromones are nature's way of sending out signals to the opposite sex. No need to practice pick-up lines or clever tactics for getting a date. Strengthen your pheromone scent with chemicals that can be bought and worn for increased sex appeal. The next time you go out on the town looking for some attention, trust your pheromones to increase your chances of success!

- About The Author
Terri Lewis is a relationship advisor specializing in alternate therapy and is an authority on wicca and pagan culture and tradition. Terri provides content for the website Free Love Spells and Information (www.love-spells-pheromones.com).

Good Nutrition Needed for Good Sex by: Ruby Boyd

2006-10-31T18:16:00.000+08:00

Most sex problems include loss of sex drive, lack of sex interest (which may differ from the preceding), impotence, premature climax, sterility, damage to the pelvic organs (which may inhibit pleasure and encourage infections), inherent weaknesses in the sex system, diet- or lifestyle-related fatigue, and various other problems.

Psychological sex problems fall into a special category.

But good diet and exercise are necessary even when counselling is the primary means of correction.

Some problems may be primarily rooted in chemical or glandular imbalance and may be completely corrected by diet and exercise.

When the food we eat lacks essential vitamins, minerals, enzymes, and other nutrients, we become undernourished and subject to disease.

Likewise, sexual problems, whether physical or mental, result from deficiencies--in knowledge, in attitude, in diet, in lifestyle. Once we correct the deficiency, the problem takes care of itself.

This is Nature's way.

Our bodies are made of food chemicals, and the energy we use is fueled by food chemicals.

When some of these chemicals are lacking, certain parts of our bodies may be incomplete, so they cannot perform the functions they were designed to perform.

Since we get the chemicals we need from foods, we have to have a variety of whole, pure, and natural foods to meet all the chemical needs of the body.

We have to eat right, or our bodies will not work correctly.

Our sex lives depend on the structural integrity of several glands, organs, and tissues of the body as well as on the availability of sufficient energy to perform at its best.

Each of these parts of the sex system requires constant replenishing of the nutrients it requires.

While the brain, nerves, and glands are fed by the same foods, different tissues require different foods to function at peak efficiency.

Thus, a variety of nutrients needed by different tissues requires a variety of foods to supply those nutrients.

But suppose we were not getting the right foods to produce the sex hormones our bodies needed? We would be in serious trouble as far as our sex lives were concerned.

If you want to save your love life and make it more enjoyable, you need to evaluate the food and drink that have become part of your lifestyle.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention suggests that adults eat a healthy breakfast, drink 100 percent fruit juice and load their diets with fruits and vegetables.

Researchers at the U.S. Department of Agriculture have found that the mineral boron is vital for hormone production and sexual function. boron can be found in dark green leafy vegetables, fruits(not citrus), nuts and legumes.

For a romantic twist, the caring couple can prepare their nutritious meals together; not only will you boost your energy, but for many, the act of food preparation itself can be a bonding experience.

You can kick it up a notch by using aphrodisiac spices like clove, vanilla, ginger and saffron in your dishes.

Even the healthiest of meals cannot provide all of the 45-plus nutrients that are needed in your diet to maintain good health.

These essential nutrients are divided into six categories--proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, minerals and water.

Even marginal deficiencies of one or more nutrients can interfere with your good health.

Use as few drugs as possible. Ask your doctor if any of the prescription drugs you have to take will affect your sex life.

Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee. As much as possible, avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Cut back on milk and wheat products.

Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas, juices for commercial soft drinks. If you must use sweetener, use a little honey.

As adults, we must realize that good health is earned. It is something we have to work for.

We can have a wonderful love life and wonderful sexual activity, but the two must be built on a foundation of right living. We need to learn our historical lessons and resolve to eat foods as whole, pure, and natural as we can find them.

Sometimes the flame of love just dies, because we aren't eating right. The sex drive won't run without the right fuel.

- About The Author
Ruby Boyd's website offers information on achieving Natural Health, Natural Beauty using natural, drug-free methods.
Visit http://www.a1-natural-health-and-beauty.com for information on how to achieve health and beauty fitness goals naturally.

Sex Can Be Good For Your Health by: Shane Wade

2006-10-31T18:13:00.000+08:00

Erotic Exercise is the best exercise you can give yourself and your partner. Erotic Exercise involves the contraction of muscles in your arms, legs and adomen. This is the same kind of workout you get at a gym. Now which exercise do you prefer?

Sexual exercise will always make sex alot better and keep you feeling fantastic mentally and physically. Having sex 2 or more times a week can lower the risk of a heart attack over the course of 10 years than men who have sex less often. (2005 Journal Of Epidemiology and Community Health.)

Erotic Exercise will improve your cardiovascular into a better physical condition. This will improve a happier heart.

Frequent ejaculation(April 17th, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association), might help protect your prostate from cancer. Ejaculating regularly could lower risk of cancer because cancer-causing substances get flushed out of the body instead of staying in the prostate. Well than makes alot of sense to me.

Sexual activity is a great stress reliever. Satisfying sex can exhilarate a mood to high levels. Orgasm releases tension. Sex is a vigorous form of exercise. Having 2 or more orgasms every week, you will live a better life than those who only have a orgasm fewer than once a month. How sad is that?

Erotic Exercise. It doesn't get better than this. Remember. Sex can be good for your health. Lets get busy.....

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- About The Author
Shane Wade
Good Day,
I am a freelance writer specializing in mens health issues. I am also a personal trainer and therapist. And I also do some photography as well. Any subject that I write about concerning a mans health is more knowledge for you that you need to know. And to always let you know that help is always available.
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For Men: The Seven Secrets Of Successful Sex by: Rod Phillips

2006-10-31T18:07:00.000+08:00

Men, if you want to satisfy any woman - every time, read on!

Sex can be long, slow and romantic, or it can be quick, urgent and intense. And it often doesn't make much difference to a man's enjoyment whether sex is over in a minute or it takes all night. Indeed, sometimes sex can seem a lot easier if it is over quickly and we don't have to make much of an effort to please our partner. The trouble is, of course, that sex like this is generally very unsatisfying for a woman, and a man who adopts this as his standard lovemaking technique isn't likely to be enjoying sex for very long before his partner departs to find someone more considerate in bed! Here, then, are some simple guidelines which will help to make sex good for both of you - and that way, give you the chance to enjoy it more often!

1 Enjoy foreplay

The big difference between men and women is in the need for foreplay. Even though many women like a quick, intense session of sex once in a while, we know that on average it takes between ten and twenty times as long for a woman to become aroused and ready for intercourse as it does for a man. And even though a woman's vagina may get wet very quickly, most women need a period of foreplay before they are emotionally ready for penetration. What this means in practice is that foreplay needs to last for at least ten - and preferably twenty - minutes if intercourse is going to be a good experience for a woman. But here's the interesting thing - the huge majority of women who enjoy foreplay for twenty minutes will have an orgasm. And since a woman's orgasm is not only satisfying for her, but adds to her partner's excitement as well, you can see it's well worth enjoying your foreplay.

So what does good foreplay involve? You might just see foreplay as a prelude to intercourse, or you might see it as an end in itself which culminates in orgasm for one or both partners - and that's a good alternative to sexual intercourse if you want safe sex, of course. But assuming that foreplay is going to lead up to intercourse, it can take several forms, including:

Kissing - appreciated by every part of the body

Petting - touching, stroking, nibbling

Massage - a variety of pressures and strokes across a women's entire body using scented oils, feathers, silk, or nothing but hands

Masturbation - solo or mutual masturbation

Oral sex - fellatio and cunnilingus

For men, it's a great idea to become an expert in the arts of gentle touching, caressing and kissing. Vary the pressure of your touch or kiss, switch between firm and gentle pressure, pause and resume - all strategies which prevent the foreplay becoming boring. But perhaps the greatest asset that a man can have during foreplay is expertise in the gentle art of pleasuring a woman orally - in other words, be an expert at cunnilingus. In survey after survey, women report that they like cunnilingus above all other forms of sexual activity. This is because it's a reliable route to orgasm for most women - much more reliable than intercourse, and in many cases it's easier than masturbation. It's also an act of real intimacy and trust - qualities which women appreciate in their partner.

There are many websites which offer advice about the best oral sex techniques: for example, http://www.sex-and-relationships.com offers hints and advice on how to enjoy oral sex, as well as providing a lot of advice about sexual positions, written from the point of view of both a man and a woman.

2 Be sensitive to her needs

Being with a selfish lover is a complete turn-off for a woman. It's no use you just going through the motions - either you're committed to giving her a good time or you're not. And being selfish isn't just about making a dive for her erogenous zones and satisfying yourself after a few perfunctory minutes of foreplay - even if she lets you! To give her a good time you need to be with her emotionally as well as physically, with your attention fully focused on what you're doing. Successful sex comes from being fully present with her during the act of lovemaking - being responsive to her movements, words, and feelings. If you're pleasuring her orally, for example, watch how her body shifts slightly as she moves towards her orgasm. These small movements indicate whether she wants you to move your focus, press harder or more softly, speed up or slow down. And remember that good sex isn't generally the same for women as it is for men: when you masturbate, you probably enjoy increasing the speed and pressure of your hand movements as you get near orgasm. For her, consistency and a steady rhythm are likely to be much more important until she's really on the edge of her orgasm. Only then will a faster rhythm and a harder pressure of your fingers or tongue, depending on what you're doing, help her over the edge and into the bliss of her orgasm.

3 Let her come down from orgasm in an intimate embrace

When a woman reaches orgasm, it can be so intense that she needs a few minutes to recover and come fully back to the here and now. So after she's enjoyed her orgasm, let her rest gently in your arms if that's what she wants, feeling your love and affection before you continue with your sex. Remember the after-effects of orgasm are different for a man and a woman: most men can't get an erection again straight away, and may even lose interest in sex for a while after they have ejaculated. The whole idea of satisfying her before you take your pleasure is so that you don't just reach orgasm, ejaculate, turn over and go to sleep. The guiding principle is "she comes first!" Remember this simple idea, and you'll enjoy much better sex. After a woman's enjoyed her orgasm, it takes her body and mind much longer to lose their arousal than it does for a man. So, after good foreplay, and hopefully an orgasm, she'll still be sexually aroused, ready to enjoy penetration and intercourse with you.

4 Remember that penetration is important to her; make it special and do it elegantly

The act of penetration can be just as important to your partner as it is to you: and you might be surprised to know that her desire to be penetrated by the man she loves and trusts can be just as strong as your desire to penetrate her. Many men forget this. And it's also important to keep in mind that this is a special act for a woman - one that symbolises love, affection and intimacy. So when you get to the moment of penetration, be sensitive and respect the gift she is giving you in allowing you into her body. Exactly how you approach the moment of penetration will depend on the mood of the sex you're enjoying (and the sexual position in which you're enjoying it). Your sex may be assertive, a wonderful meeting of masculine power and feminine receptiveness, or it may be a gentle romantic connection, symbolised by loving eye-contact as you enter her vagina. In either case, be respectful and if it feels appropriate, ask her "May I enter you?" A final word of advice - if you have trouble getting your penis in, don't fumble and fool around: be straight, direct and honest - just ask her to guide you in with her hand. Women hate an incompetent lover.

5 Learn to be a good lover; don't come too soon

Premature ejaculation is a real problem for many men. And it's true that women often don't understand how out-of-control it can feel. In young men, it's often the result of being too excited and aroused - all that testosterone, and the urge to ejaculate quickly is quite natural. Greater lovemaking skill can come with age, but even so many men never bother to learn the simple techniques that could help them last longer in bed. All it requires is the decision to do so, and the will-power to carry that decision through, plus a little help from your partner. See, for example: http://www.end-premature-ejaculation-now.com

And being a good lover means a few other things too: like ensuring your body and penis are clean before you have sex - the same is true for her vulva, of course. And respecting her wishes as to whether or not you ejaculate in her mouth during oral sex. And not resting all your weight on her unless she likes to feel you resting on top of her. There are many more such things which will make your lovemaking into a wonderful, memorable experience for you both.

6 Respect her feelings

Men very often think that a woman "should" reach orgasm every time she has sex. In fact, very few women will do so - or even want to do so. The hardest thing of all for men to understand is that a woman may not even know before sex starts whether she is going to want to have an orgasm, or be able to do so in that particular session of lovemaking. Men certainly need to grasp that orgasm may not be important for a woman. Instead, the intimacy, the cuddles, the kisses, and just feeling her man inside her may be enough to give her great pleasure and satisfaction during sex. So don't get hung up on "giving" her an orgasm - it's her body, her orgasm, and you're just helping her to discover if she's going to have one that day!

And above all, don't sulk if she doesn't want sex and you do. That's about as ungracious as male behavior gets. You have a hand, so go and do something with it, or ask her if she will help you out.

7 Talk to each other

Talking about sex can be very difficult if you're not used to discussing intimate matters. But good communication is the essence of successful sex - and non-critical communication at that. Be loving at all times: if your partner isn't doing what you want, but they are trying to please you, be kind and gracious in the way you say what you want. A good model is to say something like: "It feel great when you do that, but it would be even better if you moved your hand up a bit." In this way, no one needs to feel unappreciated or criticised. And if there's something really important you need to say to your partner, talk about it afterwards when the emotional heat has died away a bit. Then be straightforward and loving; say what you want and need directly, openly and as son as you can. Leaving things unsaid in the hope that they will go away will seriously interfere with the pleasure you get from your sex life!

- About The Author
Rod Phillips is an experienced sexual therapist - http://www.sex-and-relationships.com and on-line counsellor at - http://www.sex-and-relationships.com

What To Do When Your Sex Drive Disappears by: Rod Phillips

2006-10-31T18:03:00.000+08:00

It's important to keep on having sex: sex maintains good health, and it can definitely help to maintain your loving feelings towards your partner. But life presents many challenges - the demands of work, family, stress, financial pressure, physical health challenges, and so on. How can we keep ourselves sexually active in the face of so many conflicting pressures? (Later in this article we'll look at how to cope with a natural decrease in your sex drive as you get older.)

The first step is to maintain open and honest communication. For example, if one partner is feeling sexual and the other is not, then good communication can ensure that neither partner takes the situation personally; in other words, you don't need to interpret the fact that your partner's level of desire and arousal is lower than yours as a reflection of how attractive you are. Rather, you can use certain techniques to harmonize the relationship.

First, if your partner feels sexual and you don't, be careful how you respond to their advances. To some extent their self-esteem is bound to be related to how attractive they feel, and that in turn is likely to be related to how you respond to any sexual overtures they may make towards you. If you don't want sex, tell them so in a way which doesn't hurt them. We all take our sexual attractiveness to others as a sign of our self-worth. If you happen to be in bed, don't roll over and go to sleep. Offer them a cuddle, and turn towards them, so you can share feelings of love and affection, and touch and kiss them.

Second, consider whether you could have sex with them or not even if you think you don't feel like it. Sexual energy is within all of us and available to most of us with very little effort - and if you can summon it up in response to your partner's sexual advances it could become energizing and revitalizing for you.

Third, if your reluctance to have sex is based on disharmony in the relationship, then talk about what is going on, or get some professional counseling help. If your lack of desire is simply due to exhaustion or worry, then put an alternative time for sexual intimacy in your diary and stick to it.

Lastly, if you don't want to be sexual in the sense of enjoying intercourse, there are many alternatives for you to consider:

Make love with your hands or mouth

If you don't want intercourse, but your partner is looking for sex, then offering to masturbate them or give them oral sex may be a good alternative. This can be fun and enjoyable for you as well as your partner, and it certainly gives you a chance to see your partner's body in a way that you wouldn't during normal intercourse. However, it may still be too sexually charged for you, and you might therefore want to suggest to your partner that they try the next idea.

Self-pleasuring while lying in your arms

Yes, masturbation can be a fun thing for couples to share. In fact I believe it is much better if they do, because one partner very often feels excluded when they discover that their partner has been secretly masturbating. Men in particular may think nothing of a quick session of self-pleasure, but their female partners can be very upset and may feel very excluded if they learn that their partner has been masturbating without their knowledge. While men may not want to give up this source of self-pleasure, it's worth trying a new approach, because there's a whole new depth of pleasure to be gained from masturbating when you are in intimate contact with your partner. Very often the sight of a partner masturbating is sexually arousing for the other partner and will lead to them joining in. But whether this happens or not, such self-pleasuring in a supportive environment is an excellent way to bridge the gap between two partners whose sexual desire is unequal in strength and urgency.

There is always the alternative of masturbating by yourself. But if you do this, make sure that you are not doing it in a way that enhances feelings of shame or guilt about the activity! Self-pleasuring is a fun thing, and it's certainly a natural part of human sexuality!

Massage and touch

Another great alternative to sexual contact when you don't feel in the mood is massage. There are many ways to make this a rewarding experience; alternating light an heavy touches, using feathers or rabbit fur, using strokes of varying pressure and intensity, chopping, cupping and so on. Touching does not have to be a two-way exchange: one partner can touch the other for as long as they like with or without the expectation of the touch being returned. Here's a link to a great massage site, where you can find out some basic information on how to do it.

Touch alone is a great healer, and if you are too tired to make love or massage each other, then at least touch each other before you go to sleep. Touch can of course convey negative emotions as well as positive ones, so it's worth ensuring that you feel positive towards your partner before you do this!

There's an interesting fact about ageing which suggests that men and women become more sexually compatible - at least in terms of desire - as they get older. A man's testosterone level drops steadily from about twenty years of age, while a woman's increases. Testosterone is the hormone of sexual desire, so men and women may find that their sexual desire becomes more equal as time goes by. But sex alone is not enough to sustain a relationship: love and ever-increasing intimacy are the building blocks of a great relationship.

One of the main sexual changes for women in mid-life is that their level of desire often is much lower than it has been in the past. There's no easy answer to this, though maintaining intimacy and a desire for connection (which lies at the root of sexual intimacy) will go a long way towards maintaining sexual desire. Another common symptom of the post-menopausal years is a dry vagina - but there are plenty of lubricants on the market which can help out here.

For men in mid-life or later, sexual urgency and desire may decrease, but perhaps the most important change for them is that their erections become more elusive. Often direct physical stimulation is needed to get it up - a far cry from the days of youth when his erections popped up all over the place for no apparent reason at all!

As time goes by, a man's erection will also be less firm than it was in his younger days. What's more, he will, from time to time, find that his penis becomes soft during sex. This is so common as to be considered normal, though that may be no consolation to the man in question! Often his fear that he'll never have an erection again makes the whole situation worse. But you know what? It isn't a disaster. First, there's Viagra and its more recent counterparts, Levitra and Cialis. Second, it's possible to enter a woman's vagina with a soft cock, and then pump it erect inside her by using your PC muscles.

The way to do this is to circle the penis with finger and thumb, then push the blood into the shaft and head by running the circling fingers firmly along the shaft. A common variation of this technique is to use a rubber ring that fits around the base of the penis and keeps the blood inside the penis. Often a vacuum pump can be helpful in getting the penis erect in the first place. It's important not to get to hung up about having an erection, and to stop watching anxiously for it to arrive! In such a situation, a man's emotional focus needs to be external - he can think of something that arouses him, for example. One of the major benefits of ageing for a man is that his desire to ejaculate decreases markedly. He can naturally become a long lasting lover without any fear of premature ejaculation!

And it's important to remember that the loving connection and the joy of lovemaking are probably more important than having an ejaculation. What's more, most men over 50 will find that if they do not ejaculate they will be able to achieve an erection and have sex again much sooner than if they do.

A final thought: love is not based on the quantity of orgasms you have, but on the quality of the love that you experience in your relationship with your partner.

- About The Author
Rod Phillips is an on-line counselor with Sex And Relationships, http://www.sex-and-relationships.com.

Premature Ejaculation a Warm Up to Great Sex by: Terrance Lile (Uncle Terry)

2006-10-31T17:57:00.000+08:00

So what if some guys have trouble holding their load? There are millions of men each day that suffer from rapid or Premature Ejaculation (PE), and if your one of them its time to quit your crying and do something about it. The first step to a resolution is to admit you have a problem.

After a wonderful evening with the woman of your dreams, it’s time to head back to your place. Afraid to “blow” your chances with this beauty, you grab a bottle of wine in an attempt to distract her. Maybe she won’t notice your little issue and hopefully she will give you a chance for a second date. Oh no! Your plan didn’t work; she’s ready for action. Before removing her panties, you have already climaxed and are too embarrassed to move. In a panic, you pretend you don’t want to go any further, hoping she didn’t notice. There’s no need to be humiliated, tell her your situation and let her know that she’s not being rejected.

If you are sexually attracted to another, sexual arousal is natural and not something to be ashamed of. Inform your partner that you are prone to PE. Talk it over, just because you shot one load does not mean there is not another one waiting to take its place. Let your mate know that the thought of her gets you very aroused so you need to slow down and enjoy foreplay. It is a rare woman that wouldn’t like the oven preheated and wants that extra foreplay. With a bit of extra stimulation it doesn’t take long for most men to once again become aroused. Talking openly can bring you both, mentally and physically closer to each other. If this is someone you care about and want to have a relationship with, then they should understand your needs and work with you for after all you are a team.

There are a few ways to help build stamina and learn ejaculatory control. It is said that a lot of men ejaculate prematurely due to their youth. Your masturbation during youth may have had to be quick in an attempt to avoid being caught by parents, siblings and the family dog. Since masturbation was rushed, it is quite possible that one would be conditioned to getting it off fast and has remained that way. Now is the time to break that habit and develop some new ones. First though it is helpful to understand the phases of sexual response as you get on the road to recovery.

Masters and Johnson found that the physiological reaction to male and female sexual stimulus could best be described by dividing the cycles of sexual response into four separate phases – Excitement, Plateau, Orgasmic and Resolution. The male will almost always pass through all four of these phases. The Excitement Phase develops from any source of physical or mental stimulation and at this time the erection will begin and breathing start to become heavier. In the Plateau Phase the arousal is continued and the erection hard and firm as you feel highly aroused. For the male, the Orgasmic Phase is experienced at the time of ejaculation. During the Resolution Phase breathing returns to normal and the erection subsides.

Your goal is to delay the Orgasmic Phase (ejaculation) and that can be done with a bit of practice. When masturbating, try to pace yourself. Every time you feel like you’re about to climax, stop and wait 30 seconds. It will be extremely annoying at first, but try to do this for as long as you can. Whenever you masturbate, try and outlast your previous time. Keep track of how often you’re able to stop yourself. This can work with a mate as well.

You and your partner can practice different techniques to help condition you. Oral sex can be a good way to kick off the night. Since oral is not as intense as penetration, one can easily lie back and enjoy the show. This act will allow you to focus on holding back instead of thrusting. If the urge to ejaculate arrives make your mate aware. This should tell your mate to stop. If you feel the need to release, do so, but try not to force the orgasm. If you avoid a heavy orgasm your penis won’t become as soft and sensitive. In doing so, you should be able to keep going. This is when you take the time to pleasure your mate while keeping yourself aroused and ready to go. Foreplay is very important in a relationship and this is a great way to get the party started. When your mate’s oven is finished preheating, try having intercourse.

During intercourse, try and pace yourself. Lay back and have your mate ride you for a bit. If you have the urge to climax, signal your mate to be still. This is a great way to tease each other while extending your fun. Often, a girl will get extremely wet just sitting on your penis anticipating the thrust. When she least expects it, open fire with an abundance of thrusts. This technique may cause you to climax, but it’s guaranteed to put a permanent smile on her face.

Just remember you are not alone. Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual complaint among men. Through practice, slowing down and learning how to control your ejaculation your orgasms will become greater as will your mates and she will hardly be able to wait for that next lovemaking session.

- About The Author
Author Terrance Lile brings you Ask Uncle Terry and ForumErotica one of the fastest growing and most talked about sexual education sites on the web. If you are looking for x-rated stuff you will not find it here. Still, it is crammed full of sexual information that is sure to give you a lift. http://www.askuncleterry.com

Lovemaking Secrets: How to Find You Inner Sex Goddess by: Andrea Waggener

2006-10-30T18:49:00.000+08:00

Lovemaking is one of the biggest joys in life. Yet many big beautiful women don’t enjoy this essential part of their relationships to its fullest. Many big beautiful women have major self-confidence issues when it comes to great lovemaking. Their negative body image puts up a big mental roadblock in their path to great sex.

Voluptuous women can enjoy making love to a man without the inhibitions forced on them through negative media and body image. Passionate lovemaking is not the sole province of the skinny.

Great sex is possible regardless of size if you know the lovemaking positions and techniques that will work best for you. Making love as a big beautiful woman isn’t rocket science; it just takes some practice and experimentation – both of which can be lots of fun!

At some time or other we’ve all seen products claiming to be some great sex secret, or heard of someone asserting that they know THE great sex tip. The fact is that having great sex isn’t a mystery. Self-confidence is sexy; and almost no man alive can resist a woman who is ready, willing, and able.

Most sexual relationships ebb and flow in intensity over time, but too often as other concerns intrude, couples find themselves in a sex-starved marriage. This can be the result of many factors, but often body images play a big part. The ideal female body image has changed over the centuries, proving one important fact. There is no one ideal body image. There is only what is popular at the moment.

Building self-esteem is a great cure for negative body image, buy how is that accomplished? First of all, remember that your partner is there with you. It’s a free country, so this must be where he wants to be! That gives you a huge advantage right away.

Now that you have your man at your side, how can you change the usual “sex after marriage” in to high-octane passionate lovemaking?

First of all, you must leave your negative baggage at the boudoir door – or put it out with the trash! Your man is there with you; take advantage of him – literally. What woman doesn’t enjoy being seduced? NONE! Guess what, men enjoy it too. Everyone wants to feel desirable, and that includes your man. Let him know how much you desire him by seducing him for a change. Get yourself and the boudoir ready for an evening of great lovemaking. Making love to a man can help you recognize your seductive powers, and it will make him feel great too. That’s really the greatest lovemaking tip ever!

Next, try out some great sex positions until you find your favorites. You could make a point of trying out one new position every week.

Big women have a real advantage when it comes to making love – they’re built for comfort, not speed. And as we all know, speed isn’t the goal in great sex! Big beautiful women are blessed with soft, cuddly curves. Use those curves when you’re making love. Build self esteem by learning to recognize how much your lover enjoys your curves.

Sex in marriage should be great sex. By paying some extra attention to your man, and making him feel good about himself, you’ll increase his attention toward you. The more great sex you have, the more great sex you’ll have.

The key to making good love is to keep your sense of humor and your sense of adventure. These are the best lovemaking tips and lovemaking techniques you can try.

Release your inner BBW sex goddess, and start enjoying some truly passionate lovemaking!

- About The Author
Andrea Rains Waggener & Nancy Anne Eltrich are co-authors of A Big Beautiful Woman’s Guide To Great Sex. They offer more BBW lovemaking tips at http://www.bbwguidetolovemaking.com

Is your Sex LIfe Boring? by: Maurice Tate

2006-10-30T18:46:00.000+08:00

As a sexologist I get to talk to many men and women about sex. The funny thing is that most people I talk to tell me that they think others are having a much greater sex life than they are. Generally they say that their own sex is pretty boring and non exciting. The longer the couple has been together the more boring sex seems to have become. Of course there are couples that have great sex and have been together for ages. These couples are rare in my experience.

A recent study found that in 2 years of marriage, the women's interest in sex had dropped off about 50%. There was also a lot less intercourse per week.

So what can one do to spice up ones sex life? I like to think of sex in 3 flavours.

The first one is partner connection. Women generally love this style of lovemaking. In this flavour the emotional connection with your lover is most important. Generally, couples when they first fall in love have a lot of partner connection in sex. There is a lot of eye gazing, touch and emotions flowing and sex is really just great. It seems to flow and there is much hugging, touch and foreplay.

So how does one get more of this connections with your partner. One tip in sex to get more of this flavour is to open your eyes during sex. I find most couple do not even take a look at their lover. The eyes connect and the emotions can flow thought he eyes. for the more advanced, I suggest to open your eyes during orgasm. Most men find this a challenge but it can be done!

The second flavour of lovemaking is what I like to call trance. In this style one goes into oneself and is totally in ones own fantasy, sensations or a trance like state. Eyes are closed as the connection with your partner is not important. Most men seem to like trance.

I did have a lover that loved going into trance. However, I just felt I was a travel agent taking her to amazing places. Since I could not come along I felt unsatisfied. The touch was one way and I found this frustrating. I did communicate this and she did start to touch me more.

The third flavour is role playing. This can be a great deal of fun. One can act out ones fantasies or take on roles of the sexual healer or priest. How about becoming animals?. Bondage games fall into this type of play. Generally this is more challenging for most people. However playing roles really can spice up your sex life.

With my clients I suggest they start to explore the flavours that they are weak on. Most couples do not play roles as it is a bit scary. I suggest to pass through is fear and really start to explore.

If you have boring sex, you are actually committed to this on some level. Challenge your lover to do something different and you might have to compromise too. Suggest your lover takes the lead in trying something new too. Above all, have fun.

- About The Author
Mauice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. Visit his sites at http://www.bodyecstatic.com/free-relationship-tips.htm http://www.yourdatingtips.com/ http://www.lovekissing.info/

What Turns Sexy Women Off by: John Alanis

2006-10-30T18:39:00.000+08:00

No matter the subject it as always as useful to know what NOT to do, as it is to know what to do. I'm here to tell you, I am uniquely qualified to tell you how NOT to attract desirable sexy women. Why? Because I spent dang near 10 years perfecting that art before I stopped doing what doesn't work, and started doing what DOES work.

So, today, we're going to talk about what NOT to do when it comes to attraction. This will give you a handy guide of things to avoid when interacting with any sexy woman.

First off, don't try to impress her by talking about yourself, how much money you make, the playoff game you won, etc., etc. Believe me, she's heard all that before, by men who are smarter, better looking, and more successful than you or I. Instead, ask her genuine, open-ended questions about herself, and pay close attention to her answers. Shut off the conversation in your own head, and pay attention to her--you'll be amazed at how this creates attraction.

Don't ask her if "you can take her out," or if she "has a boyfriend," or if you can "have her number." You're letting her define the relationship, which sexy women HATE. In addition, questions like these activate subconscious processes that lead to autopilot answers (like NO!). It's the same thing as a salesperson asking you, "Can I help you?" and you saying, "No thanks, just looking." Switch the question to, "What specifically are you looking for?" and you'll get a better answer--same thing when setting up a second meeting with the woman you're talking to. "Let's continue this conversation over coffee sometime," works a heck of a lot better than, "Can I take you out?"

Don't shower her with compliments about her beauty, looks, etc.

She's already heard it, and knows you're trying to "compliment your way into her pants." Treat her like a human being, ask her about her hopes, dreams, and desires from a place of genuine interest, not the ulterior motive of getting your hands on her. Although it sounds obvious, this is actually a very subtle shift in thinking for most men--she'll pick up on the fact that you're NOT lusting after her, when every other guy she's talked to that day is... and start to wonder what's different about you. Give her a "bad time in a good way," teasing her about her looks, what she says, etc.

Attraction is a give and take, it has a rhythm to it. Switch from sincere to teasing, and back again--it's this switching that creates attraction.

Don't ask her, "So where do you want to go?" Take the lead, and suggest several places--"Hey, let's go here... sound good to you?" is much better than the above question. If she doesn't want to go there, then ask her for suggestions. Believe it or not, this was a big breakthrough for me--I always thought sexy women would be offended if I did this, but turns out they really enjoy it.

Don't plan your life around her--live your own. This kills more relationships than probably anything else--women want to be with a strong guy, not a surrogate mommy to a little kid.

Again, a lot of these things are common sense, but as they say, common sense ain't so common. Most of us are socially conditioned to do the things I just mentioned, and we actively have to avoid them. I know I do--even with everything I know, I occasionally find myself slipping back into the above behaviors, and they lead to predictable results--the death of attraction.

-About The Author
John Alanis is hte creator of the "Women Approach You" attraction system, and also runs the website http://www.byegoodlover.com